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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 255389" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>My difficult child was 11 years at the time. He earned points (poker chips) for various things. We had a poster board listing what he could do to earn points.</p><p></p><p>Another poster board listed what he could "buy" with the points. Example, "100 points a movie at the theater" "50 points popcorn", "50 points pop", "25 points a board game with mom" You can figure in extra computer/video/t.v. time if you want. However, I tried to make these special things that are not done very often.</p><p> </p><p>A third board was created to help in discipline of very specific issues. You can not take away points unless they are on that board before the incident happens. In other words, he does not loose points if you get angry at his actions. He just will not earn any for that time period. We were having problems with occasional bad language (-25 points), and putting hand on door handle before the vehicle stopped (-50 points). There can only be a very few things on this board because you really do want the process to be focused on the positive behaviors and too many reasons to loose points will defeat the purpose. Make these specific things you are working on.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 255389, member: 5096"] My difficult child was 11 years at the time. He earned points (poker chips) for various things. We had a poster board listing what he could do to earn points. Another poster board listed what he could "buy" with the points. Example, "100 points a movie at the theater" "50 points popcorn", "50 points pop", "25 points a board game with mom" You can figure in extra computer/video/t.v. time if you want. However, I tried to make these special things that are not done very often. A third board was created to help in discipline of very specific issues. You can not take away points unless they are on that board before the incident happens. In other words, he does not loose points if you get angry at his actions. He just will not earn any for that time period. We were having problems with occasional bad language (-25 points), and putting hand on door handle before the vehicle stopped (-50 points). There can only be a very few things on this board because you really do want the process to be focused on the positive behaviors and too many reasons to loose points will defeat the purpose. Make these specific things you are working on. [/QUOTE]
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