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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 444452" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>It sounds like sensory issues are a major factor for him. You perhaps need to work with him to help him understand that there are other ways to cope. Kids like this think in straight lines, direct and to the point, they are not generally good at lateral thinking or trying to find a creative solution. But you may be able to help.</p><p></p><p>For example, ear muffs or ear plugs can help with noise sensitivity. Dark glasses can help with too much visual stimulation. Legionaire's caps (commonly used by Aussie kids, a school uniform item in most elementary schools) can cut out peripheral vision and reduce overstimulation. He may be resistant to trying these to begin with, but if he finds it helpful he may be more willing. I found that once I could talk to difficult child 3 about his autism and show him I was trying to find ways to help him cope, he was more open to suggestions. We explained it to him when he was about 8 - kids are able to understand at different ages. We also explained it in ways tat did not focus on dysfunction, but on simply a different way of thinking. People with autism are just as capable, but they need help to find what is the best way for them. Because difficult child 3 was always so capable with computers, we used computer operating systems to explain it to him, and it really helped. We said that some people have Mac brains and some people have easy child brains, and you can do the same sort of job with either computer, but the programming for each to make them work, is different. So each person has to find what is the best way for them. And with autism, we find ways to reduce the sensory sensitivity so we can learn how to cope better. And over time, you do learn how to cope better, and also learn what you are really, really good at, often better than other people - because every person has their special skill and although he is young, he will find out one day what he is able to really enjoy doing, and doing well.</p><p></p><p>With the stroller - do you strap him in? If so, that is perhaps part of what helps, that sense of being held. In which case, weighted vests or weighted blankets.</p><p></p><p>Also with the stroller - see what you can find second-hand. Plus you can get strollers for larger, heavier kids because there are always kids with various disabilities who need strollers when they are older and heavier than expected. </p><p></p><p>As for other people - learn to ignore them. Or plan your answers ahead of time - "my child has an invisible disability, we cope the best way we know how." The tantrums do change and ease, as he gets older and better equipped to manage.</p><p></p><p>There will always be people who give you a hard time out in public. You will need to develop a thick skin and also your own compassionate but firm response. I often used to say, "Walk a mile in my shoes; I am glad for your sake that you have never had to understand. We love our child but he needs to be handled differently due to his disability. We do what works and what is advised by his specialists." (and you can count on us as part of his team of specialists!)</p><p></p><p>It does get better and there are blessings. It's just hard to see them sometimes!</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 444452, member: 1991"] It sounds like sensory issues are a major factor for him. You perhaps need to work with him to help him understand that there are other ways to cope. Kids like this think in straight lines, direct and to the point, they are not generally good at lateral thinking or trying to find a creative solution. But you may be able to help. For example, ear muffs or ear plugs can help with noise sensitivity. Dark glasses can help with too much visual stimulation. Legionaire's caps (commonly used by Aussie kids, a school uniform item in most elementary schools) can cut out peripheral vision and reduce overstimulation. He may be resistant to trying these to begin with, but if he finds it helpful he may be more willing. I found that once I could talk to difficult child 3 about his autism and show him I was trying to find ways to help him cope, he was more open to suggestions. We explained it to him when he was about 8 - kids are able to understand at different ages. We also explained it in ways tat did not focus on dysfunction, but on simply a different way of thinking. People with autism are just as capable, but they need help to find what is the best way for them. Because difficult child 3 was always so capable with computers, we used computer operating systems to explain it to him, and it really helped. We said that some people have Mac brains and some people have easy child brains, and you can do the same sort of job with either computer, but the programming for each to make them work, is different. So each person has to find what is the best way for them. And with autism, we find ways to reduce the sensory sensitivity so we can learn how to cope better. And over time, you do learn how to cope better, and also learn what you are really, really good at, often better than other people - because every person has their special skill and although he is young, he will find out one day what he is able to really enjoy doing, and doing well. With the stroller - do you strap him in? If so, that is perhaps part of what helps, that sense of being held. In which case, weighted vests or weighted blankets. Also with the stroller - see what you can find second-hand. Plus you can get strollers for larger, heavier kids because there are always kids with various disabilities who need strollers when they are older and heavier than expected. As for other people - learn to ignore them. Or plan your answers ahead of time - "my child has an invisible disability, we cope the best way we know how." The tantrums do change and ease, as he gets older and better equipped to manage. There will always be people who give you a hard time out in public. You will need to develop a thick skin and also your own compassionate but firm response. I often used to say, "Walk a mile in my shoes; I am glad for your sake that you have never had to understand. We love our child but he needs to be handled differently due to his disability. We do what works and what is advised by his specialists." (and you can count on us as part of his team of specialists!) It does get better and there are blessings. It's just hard to see them sometimes! Marg [/QUOTE]
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