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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 444602" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>If you perfect that "what is YOUR PROBLEM?" look people start to leave you alone. been there done that with a child who HAD to eat as we shopped. NO other option or he couldn't handle the stimuli. I learned to get something iwth protein or else raw baby carrots or non-sweet crackers because otherwise he wanted the entire package regardless of size.</p><p></p><p>Then by age 6 he thought he was "old enough" to go off on his own. Only did it to me one time because I tanned his bottom. I only spanked when it was something that could get him killed or maimed. Running off in a store in the city we lived in was SOOOOOO not safe and I saw it as a real threat to his life. With husband it happened a LOT more because husband was awful at keeping him in the cart or making him keep a hand on the cart or his belt. Wiz also knew that husband was NOT going to spank him. Ever. With me he knew if I said it that it would happen. ANd I had a LOT of discipline things he liked much less than being spanked. Tantrums in public? Oh he didn't try that past age 2. Why? I am NOT making this up. I truly did it. I knew he was starting to test that limit so I got some friends who worked in a dept store to let me know a slow time. then I pretty much made the situation ripe for a tantrum. He started and was truly pitiful at tantrums - weak and ineffectual yelling, no stomping, very boring compared to kids I babysat. So, with the employees being prepared ahead of time (thinking I was nuts but willing to go along with it to liven up their day - we were in our early twenties after all), I laid down on the floor of the shoe dept and pounded my fists and yelled. Took less than 15 seconds for Wiz to stop and less than 1 minute for him to beg me to stop because "Mommy, you are 'barrassing me!". </p><p></p><p>Yes, he had words like embarrassing in his normal vocabulary at two. yes, I am not afraid of being an idiot to keep my kid in line. Yes, he still remembers it -has my dad's memory - dad remembers the cow that put her head through the window over his crib when he was 5 months old - Wiz remembers the rainbows in the back window as we brought him home from the hospital after he was born - and he was NOT there for long. husband and I had no clue there were rainbows, but the gma he never sees had them written in husband's baby book with Wiz' info. He had only seen her maybe 4 times and all before age 3 and she enver spoke of it. Not to him or us. </p><p></p><p>Focusing on how to make his sensory issues easier will make this easier. DOn't take him out with-o some protein in his system. It really helps. If nothing else get those zone or balance bars and keep them in your purse. They have a balanced amt of nutrients and they make a HUGe difference. Or get some deli chicken or sandwich meat and let him munch. COnsider giving him an MP2 player and some music or a book on tape to listen to. Classical music is very calming, and books on tape are amazing. If he has a grandparent who can calm him by reading, have them record a story onto tape. My dad did that for Wiz and then the toher grands and it ended up being something that the sp ed teacher at his jr high used with students there. His voice is just like that and he read Uncle wiggily onto tape - and it is amazingly calming. Just be sure that YOU control the volume. </p><p></p><p>As for Marg's comptuer kid, Jess was like that. At age four she installed fax software into our computer and started sending faxes. We have NO idea w here she found the software. Or who she sent them to. Pages of her gobbledygook got faxed to numbers we could never identify. We just saw logs that they went through. She actually put numbers in via software she found on the computer that made a different tone for each key that was pressed. It came iwth the computer is allw e could figure out because she NEVER went online. husband kept freaking that she would break it, but it was impossible to keep her off of it. So we just kept files on floppy discs (common back then).</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 444602, member: 1233"] If you perfect that "what is YOUR PROBLEM?" look people start to leave you alone. been there done that with a child who HAD to eat as we shopped. NO other option or he couldn't handle the stimuli. I learned to get something iwth protein or else raw baby carrots or non-sweet crackers because otherwise he wanted the entire package regardless of size. Then by age 6 he thought he was "old enough" to go off on his own. Only did it to me one time because I tanned his bottom. I only spanked when it was something that could get him killed or maimed. Running off in a store in the city we lived in was SOOOOOO not safe and I saw it as a real threat to his life. With husband it happened a LOT more because husband was awful at keeping him in the cart or making him keep a hand on the cart or his belt. Wiz also knew that husband was NOT going to spank him. Ever. With me he knew if I said it that it would happen. ANd I had a LOT of discipline things he liked much less than being spanked. Tantrums in public? Oh he didn't try that past age 2. Why? I am NOT making this up. I truly did it. I knew he was starting to test that limit so I got some friends who worked in a dept store to let me know a slow time. then I pretty much made the situation ripe for a tantrum. He started and was truly pitiful at tantrums - weak and ineffectual yelling, no stomping, very boring compared to kids I babysat. So, with the employees being prepared ahead of time (thinking I was nuts but willing to go along with it to liven up their day - we were in our early twenties after all), I laid down on the floor of the shoe dept and pounded my fists and yelled. Took less than 15 seconds for Wiz to stop and less than 1 minute for him to beg me to stop because "Mommy, you are 'barrassing me!". Yes, he had words like embarrassing in his normal vocabulary at two. yes, I am not afraid of being an idiot to keep my kid in line. Yes, he still remembers it -has my dad's memory - dad remembers the cow that put her head through the window over his crib when he was 5 months old - Wiz remembers the rainbows in the back window as we brought him home from the hospital after he was born - and he was NOT there for long. husband and I had no clue there were rainbows, but the gma he never sees had them written in husband's baby book with Wiz' info. He had only seen her maybe 4 times and all before age 3 and she enver spoke of it. Not to him or us. Focusing on how to make his sensory issues easier will make this easier. DOn't take him out with-o some protein in his system. It really helps. If nothing else get those zone or balance bars and keep them in your purse. They have a balanced amt of nutrients and they make a HUGe difference. Or get some deli chicken or sandwich meat and let him munch. COnsider giving him an MP2 player and some music or a book on tape to listen to. Classical music is very calming, and books on tape are amazing. If he has a grandparent who can calm him by reading, have them record a story onto tape. My dad did that for Wiz and then the toher grands and it ended up being something that the sp ed teacher at his jr high used with students there. His voice is just like that and he read Uncle wiggily onto tape - and it is amazingly calming. Just be sure that YOU control the volume. As for Marg's comptuer kid, Jess was like that. At age four she installed fax software into our computer and started sending faxes. We have NO idea w here she found the software. Or who she sent them to. Pages of her gobbledygook got faxed to numbers we could never identify. We just saw logs that they went through. She actually put numbers in via software she found on the computer that made a different tone for each key that was pressed. It came iwth the computer is allw e could figure out because she NEVER went online. husband kept freaking that she would break it, but it was impossible to keep her off of it. So we just kept files on floppy discs (common back then). [/QUOTE]
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