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<blockquote data-quote="Shari" data-source="post: 444678" data-attributes="member: 1848"><p>My Wee is 9 now, and we used a stroller for longer outings until he was 7. For the same reason you describe.</p><p></p><p>He kind of outgrew the need for it on his own, but we have always done a lot of Occupational Therapist (OT) to address the sensory needs.</p><p></p><p>By far, the oddest thing that worked for me when I had to take Wee out...when Wee was very small, 2-3-ish, the grocery store (or any other type of store) was volunteering to walk yourself straight to hades. And somehow, you were supposed to enjoy it. HA! If you tried to hold his hand, he squalled and fought you to no end. You couldn't carry him...he didn't like to be held. If you tried to "herd" him, he'd just run all over, licking the canned good. Another mom who had a boy with similar issues told me that, for whatever reason, her son could <em>follow</em> just fine. So we tried it. I would tell him as I unbuckled him from his seat "I am going into the grocery store (when he got a little older, I also told him what I was buying)" and set him down and I'd take off to the store. Only 1 time did he ever not follow, and that was in the store, and he got hung up licking the canned goods or something. But for whatever reason, it did work. I felt like parent of the year (not) with a toddler following me around instead of in my grasp, but it worked. I could actually purchase a gallon of milk with Wee in tow and not nearly have a stroke getting out of the store. You do what you have to.</p><p></p><p>As for the looks, I've just gotten over it, mostly. But I tend to try to make situations humerous to deal with them. I've been known to make signs or "business cards". When I fly with Wee, I create a little business card and just hand them out to the flight attendants and any folks sitting around us when we get on. It has Wee's picture and first name, some things he likes and a very brief description of what a great kid he is, and the title says "I have Aspergers" or whatever. Then I list some of the behaviors they may witness with a brief explanation, and always the disclaimer that mom knows me best and how to get me through my fears, if there are any problems, she'll help me through them as quickly as possible. It has worked really well. It could be adapted to hand to strangers who like to glare, too.</p><p></p><p>That website, cafe press, or something like that, also sells tshirts that say "I have Autism" or "I have developmental delays" or whatever on them, and though I have never bought one, I think they are a great idea. Some of them are funny ("I have autism. What's YOUR excuse?") and some have a website link printed for more info....there are lots. Been a while since I looked. But I kinda stole the idea and have written "developmental delays - rescue and response vehicle" on my car window. No reason it couldn't be on a stroller, also. </p><p></p><p>I'm also all about education, tho. If there's a glimmer of an open door in someone's approach, I'll just say, "this is what he does because he has...we're learning, its just slow" and be open about it. If they are an old hard-nosed school marm type, I don't even bother. </p><p></p><p>Hugs. It hoovers, I know.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>The Occupational Therapist (OT) speculated that perhaps following gives him something to focus on that helps to drown out the sensory attack that a grocery store is, and also allowed him to remain "in control" in his mind...who knows, but I do know it worked.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Shari, post: 444678, member: 1848"] My Wee is 9 now, and we used a stroller for longer outings until he was 7. For the same reason you describe. He kind of outgrew the need for it on his own, but we have always done a lot of Occupational Therapist (OT) to address the sensory needs. By far, the oddest thing that worked for me when I had to take Wee out...when Wee was very small, 2-3-ish, the grocery store (or any other type of store) was volunteering to walk yourself straight to hades. And somehow, you were supposed to enjoy it. HA! If you tried to hold his hand, he squalled and fought you to no end. You couldn't carry him...he didn't like to be held. If you tried to "herd" him, he'd just run all over, licking the canned good. Another mom who had a boy with similar issues told me that, for whatever reason, her son could [I]follow[/I] just fine. So we tried it. I would tell him as I unbuckled him from his seat "I am going into the grocery store (when he got a little older, I also told him what I was buying)" and set him down and I'd take off to the store. Only 1 time did he ever not follow, and that was in the store, and he got hung up licking the canned goods or something. But for whatever reason, it did work. I felt like parent of the year (not) with a toddler following me around instead of in my grasp, but it worked. I could actually purchase a gallon of milk with Wee in tow and not nearly have a stroke getting out of the store. You do what you have to. As for the looks, I've just gotten over it, mostly. But I tend to try to make situations humerous to deal with them. I've been known to make signs or "business cards". When I fly with Wee, I create a little business card and just hand them out to the flight attendants and any folks sitting around us when we get on. It has Wee's picture and first name, some things he likes and a very brief description of what a great kid he is, and the title says "I have Aspergers" or whatever. Then I list some of the behaviors they may witness with a brief explanation, and always the disclaimer that mom knows me best and how to get me through my fears, if there are any problems, she'll help me through them as quickly as possible. It has worked really well. It could be adapted to hand to strangers who like to glare, too. That website, cafe press, or something like that, also sells tshirts that say "I have Autism" or "I have developmental delays" or whatever on them, and though I have never bought one, I think they are a great idea. Some of them are funny ("I have autism. What's YOUR excuse?") and some have a website link printed for more info....there are lots. Been a while since I looked. But I kinda stole the idea and have written "developmental delays - rescue and response vehicle" on my car window. No reason it couldn't be on a stroller, also. I'm also all about education, tho. If there's a glimmer of an open door in someone's approach, I'll just say, "this is what he does because he has...we're learning, its just slow" and be open about it. If they are an old hard-nosed school marm type, I don't even bother. Hugs. It hoovers, I know. The Occupational Therapist (OT) speculated that perhaps following gives him something to focus on that helps to drown out the sensory attack that a grocery store is, and also allowed him to remain "in control" in his mind...who knows, but I do know it worked. [/QUOTE]
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