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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 657962" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>Just wanted you to know I am reading along too, struggling mom. If you pm one of the moderators, they may be able to help with the number of characters you are able to post.</p><p></p><p>I am so glad you found us. This site helps me find clarity, too. It's really scary to try to know how to help ourselves or our kids.</p><p></p><p>In addition to the tools you have been given by those posting in before me, I will add this one.</p><p></p><p>Child of Mine has given us the concept of "tool box". In this imaginary tool box, we keep the things that help us when we are in that overwhelmed place. Maybe there are quotes that we found helpful in there, or maybe, the story of another parent or child we found strengthening. Or maybe, just knowing this site exists can be a tool box item.</p><p></p><p>Another helpful tool for me is Recovering Enabler's concept of FOG. FOG is that place we get to when everything seems hopeless and our brains begin circling, worrying, catastrophizing. If we can name that place, if we can recognize where we are, we can gain just a moment's peace through understanding we have been here before and came through it. We can trust that our brains will begin working properly again in just a little while longer.</p><p></p><p>That helps me. To be able to know that, I mean.</p><p></p><p>Another tool for me is to see that I suffer. To acknowledge me in there somewhere in the hurt and confusion of all of this. Once I could know that concept, once I could name what that was in the core of me, I could set out to learn how to do that. How would it be possible to suffer and have that just be a part of myself? The quickest and most certain way I found worked for me was to google images of the Mary. Her son was also in danger and she knew it for so long a time and there was no way she could change or prevent what was coming or help her child, either. And I know that sounds a little too out there, but if you google those images and see the Mary's eyes, you may find too, as I did, a way to accept what is in a strong, solid way.</p><p></p><p>That helped me.</p><p></p><p>Leonard Cohen's "Halleluiah", as kd lang sings it. That helps me define it and find a place to stand up from. I will post it here for you, too.</p><p></p><p>[MEDIA=youtube]7oZN2eTgvVs[/MEDIA]</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 657962, member: 17461"] Just wanted you to know I am reading along too, struggling mom. If you pm one of the moderators, they may be able to help with the number of characters you are able to post. I am so glad you found us. This site helps me find clarity, too. It's really scary to try to know how to help ourselves or our kids. In addition to the tools you have been given by those posting in before me, I will add this one. Child of Mine has given us the concept of "tool box". In this imaginary tool box, we keep the things that help us when we are in that overwhelmed place. Maybe there are quotes that we found helpful in there, or maybe, the story of another parent or child we found strengthening. Or maybe, just knowing this site exists can be a tool box item. Another helpful tool for me is Recovering Enabler's concept of FOG. FOG is that place we get to when everything seems hopeless and our brains begin circling, worrying, catastrophizing. If we can name that place, if we can recognize where we are, we can gain just a moment's peace through understanding we have been here before and came through it. We can trust that our brains will begin working properly again in just a little while longer. That helps me. To be able to know that, I mean. Another tool for me is to see that I suffer. To acknowledge me in there somewhere in the hurt and confusion of all of this. Once I could know that concept, once I could name what that was in the core of me, I could set out to learn how to do that. How would it be possible to suffer and have that just be a part of myself? The quickest and most certain way I found worked for me was to google images of the Mary. Her son was also in danger and she knew it for so long a time and there was no way she could change or prevent what was coming or help her child, either. And I know that sounds a little too out there, but if you google those images and see the Mary's eyes, you may find too, as I did, a way to accept what is in a strong, solid way. That helped me. Leonard Cohen's "Halleluiah", as kd lang sings it. That helps me define it and find a place to stand up from. I will post it here for you, too. [MEDIA=youtube]7oZN2eTgvVs[/MEDIA] Cedar [/QUOTE]
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