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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 13316" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>It's a tough one. But I do feel that at least a certain focus on "do to get" may be a start.</p><p></p><p>Look up hikikomori. It's peculiarly Japanese but sounds a lot like this. Maybe different reasons, maybe not. But what happens in Japan - the parents, especially the mothers, inadvertently enable them. It's connected to culture and other things, added to lack of community support and understanding. Extreme lack of understanding. And whenever I'm fretting about how much time my son spends isolating himself from the world - it reminds me that things could be far worse. and I then remind HIM of that also.</p><p></p><p>I'm not saying your son is hikikomori, only that checking it out could be sufficiently lateral to give you some ideas.</p><p></p><p>It's a fascinating topic. It was only after I began to read up about it that I recalled, we actually met a Japanese youth who was rapidly heading in that direction. His parents had sent him on a two week exchange to Australia, to 'snap him out of it'. It failed. I was told that when he got back to Japan he went into his bedroom and stayed there. For years.</p><p></p><p>'Tis a puzzlement.</p><p></p><p>At least with your son, it's much more socially acceptable to get treatment, in the US. Especially treatment for depression. But I do think you're right, to be planning to curtain computer access as well as revisit medication and assessment.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 13316, member: 1991"] It's a tough one. But I do feel that at least a certain focus on "do to get" may be a start. Look up hikikomori. It's peculiarly Japanese but sounds a lot like this. Maybe different reasons, maybe not. But what happens in Japan - the parents, especially the mothers, inadvertently enable them. It's connected to culture and other things, added to lack of community support and understanding. Extreme lack of understanding. And whenever I'm fretting about how much time my son spends isolating himself from the world - it reminds me that things could be far worse. and I then remind HIM of that also. I'm not saying your son is hikikomori, only that checking it out could be sufficiently lateral to give you some ideas. It's a fascinating topic. It was only after I began to read up about it that I recalled, we actually met a Japanese youth who was rapidly heading in that direction. His parents had sent him on a two week exchange to Australia, to 'snap him out of it'. It failed. I was told that when he got back to Japan he went into his bedroom and stayed there. For years. 'Tis a puzzlement. At least with your son, it's much more socially acceptable to get treatment, in the US. Especially treatment for depression. But I do think you're right, to be planning to curtain computer access as well as revisit medication and assessment. Marg [/QUOTE]
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