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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 719439" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Sue, welcome back. I'm so sorry about your husbands passing, your daughter's treatment of you and your unhappiness.....you have so much on your plate and none of it is nourishing or positive for you.</p><p></p><p>I would suggest that you contact NAMI ASAP. They are the National Alliance on Mental Illness and you can access them online. They offer wonderful parent courses as well as resources, information, guidance and support for YOU. Secondly, find a therapist to work with you to learn how to detach from your daughter and her choices. You can find therapists at the Psychology today website as well as goodtherapy.org. It may be prudent to find a 12 step group, like CODA to start getting support. As Jabber mentioned, please read the article on detachment, you can access it at the bottom of my post here.</p><p></p><p>When we are in the thick of our dysfunctional connections with our adult kids, we are so used to the treatment we receive that we are not able to see the big picture, we are essentially blind to what is truly going on. Sue, you deserve more than this, you deserve a peaceful home and an adult child who loves you, respects you and treats you with kindness and consideration. You deserve to be enjoying this time in your life. You deserve joy and happiness. Remember, we train those around us to treat us the way we believe we deserve to be treated.....so, in my estimation, the work is for <u>you</u> to get the help you need to make different choices so you can live the life you desire.</p><p></p><p>Get support for yourself as soon as you can. Then, as you begin to focus on yourself and your own needs and desires, you will be in a better position to make positive, healthy choices for yourself. </p><p></p><p>Hang in there. Keep posting. Get support immediately. You're not alone.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 719439, member: 13542"] Sue, welcome back. I'm so sorry about your husbands passing, your daughter's treatment of you and your unhappiness.....you have so much on your plate and none of it is nourishing or positive for you. I would suggest that you contact NAMI ASAP. They are the National Alliance on Mental Illness and you can access them online. They offer wonderful parent courses as well as resources, information, guidance and support for YOU. Secondly, find a therapist to work with you to learn how to detach from your daughter and her choices. You can find therapists at the Psychology today website as well as goodtherapy.org. It may be prudent to find a 12 step group, like CODA to start getting support. As Jabber mentioned, please read the article on detachment, you can access it at the bottom of my post here. When we are in the thick of our dysfunctional connections with our adult kids, we are so used to the treatment we receive that we are not able to see the big picture, we are essentially blind to what is truly going on. Sue, you deserve more than this, you deserve a peaceful home and an adult child who loves you, respects you and treats you with kindness and consideration. You deserve to be enjoying this time in your life. You deserve joy and happiness. Remember, we train those around us to treat us the way we believe we deserve to be treated.....so, in my estimation, the work is for [U]you[/U] to get the help you need to make different choices so you can live the life you desire. Get support for yourself as soon as you can. Then, as you begin to focus on yourself and your own needs and desires, you will be in a better position to make positive, healthy choices for yourself. Hang in there. Keep posting. Get support immediately. You're not alone. [/QUOTE]
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