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<blockquote data-quote="greengurlygurl" data-source="post: 484429" data-attributes="member: 13283"><p>Thank you so much for responding. it's so hard for everyone, but helps so much when someone has a very similar issue to be able to commiserate. </p><p></p><p>She does have an IEP and the school has bent over backwards time and time again to help her. She is no longer muddling through, she is in a hole and it is too overwhelming to get out. At this point I just want her to GO to school to be socialized and get out of the house. She has friends at school, but never does anything with them. She needs someone else to initiate contact and face it, they are teenagers. I have tried to bargain, reward, take away, give back, 2nd and 3rd chances...everything I can possibly think of as well as suggestions from others. I don't even have an option to send her to her father's for a time. One, he could never handle her and two, he is too busy with his family. No contact ever unless she initiates it, but she is so used to his absence in her life, she never thinks about it. </p><p>She is responsible enough to be by herself, feed herself, take care of the animals, etc.. She doesn't talk on the phone much at all, texts rarely to friends and just does her own thing at home. If I become too rigid she fights back in an awful way and it's pure hell to live with. She is at least two years behind in maturity, but believes she is as she should be with the other kids at school. I held her back in 4th grade and it bothers her greatly now. The idea of being held back again paralyzes her, but that is exactly what is happening. She started the year out so well, but one sick day and she starts rolling downhill.</p><p>I have accepted a long time ago that her launch date will be in her 20s so that isn't an issue. What is is what she is going to do between now and then. I get ch. spprt as long as she is in school up until 21, and I need that as I know she will be with me for a long time after school is over. I just want her to be healthy and a productive member of society; get a job, hang out with friends, live life OUTSIDE our home. Her diagnosis is so extreme, without all the stimulants she would not be able to function, thus the Ambien to help her sleep. People think she is over medicated, but you take any one of her medications away and there is an absolute difference. We have had lots of therapy and our relationship has grown so much, but this situation really threatens that. I can't help but be disappointed, but really try not to dwell on it her my sake as well as hers.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="greengurlygurl, post: 484429, member: 13283"] Thank you so much for responding. it's so hard for everyone, but helps so much when someone has a very similar issue to be able to commiserate. She does have an IEP and the school has bent over backwards time and time again to help her. She is no longer muddling through, she is in a hole and it is too overwhelming to get out. At this point I just want her to GO to school to be socialized and get out of the house. She has friends at school, but never does anything with them. She needs someone else to initiate contact and face it, they are teenagers. I have tried to bargain, reward, take away, give back, 2nd and 3rd chances...everything I can possibly think of as well as suggestions from others. I don't even have an option to send her to her father's for a time. One, he could never handle her and two, he is too busy with his family. No contact ever unless she initiates it, but she is so used to his absence in her life, she never thinks about it. She is responsible enough to be by herself, feed herself, take care of the animals, etc.. She doesn't talk on the phone much at all, texts rarely to friends and just does her own thing at home. If I become too rigid she fights back in an awful way and it's pure hell to live with. She is at least two years behind in maturity, but believes she is as she should be with the other kids at school. I held her back in 4th grade and it bothers her greatly now. The idea of being held back again paralyzes her, but that is exactly what is happening. She started the year out so well, but one sick day and she starts rolling downhill. I have accepted a long time ago that her launch date will be in her 20s so that isn't an issue. What is is what she is going to do between now and then. I get ch. spprt as long as she is in school up until 21, and I need that as I know she will be with me for a long time after school is over. I just want her to be healthy and a productive member of society; get a job, hang out with friends, live life OUTSIDE our home. Her diagnosis is so extreme, without all the stimulants she would not be able to function, thus the Ambien to help her sleep. People think she is over medicated, but you take any one of her medications away and there is an absolute difference. We have had lots of therapy and our relationship has grown so much, but this situation really threatens that. I can't help but be disappointed, but really try not to dwell on it her my sake as well as hers. [/QUOTE]
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