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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 59174" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>Peg,</p><p></p><p>I hate to point this out, but you're assuming he will go to a wildnerness camp. If he's refusing help at home, he may very well refuse it somewhere else. Quite a few of us have run into the unfortunate situation where the "age of consent" for psychiatric treatment is far less than 18. In IL, for example, the age of consent is 12 for psychiatric treatment. Once they hit that age, they can refuse treatment unless they're a danger to themselves or others. Even then, medications cannot be forced and if it's a case of involuntary admission, the courts do get involved.</p><p></p><p>I would put this on his shoulders, a la NVTS above. Is he happy? Does he like his life? If not, what is *he* going to do about it? You can't do anything other than offer support and options. If he won't avail himself, I think you're pretty much stuck until he hits 18. Personally, I wouldn't hesitate to call 911 for transport to a hospital for psychiatric evaluation if there's a threat of or actual violence. You deserve to be safe in your home. </p><p></p><p>It does sound like you're dealing with- some really circular thinking (typical difficult child - ugh!). He's mad because you have told him he's out at 18 if he doesn't get his act together, but he won't get his act together and it's all your fault and that just makes him angrier. Don't get sucked into this (hard, I know). *His* life, *his* choices, he's more than welcome to stay (I think I'm understanding that from your posts) but only if he behaves like a civilized human being.... again, *his* choice. You are under no obligation to live with an adult child who needs help and refuses to seek it out. </p><p></p><p>Just out of voyeuristic curiosity, have you ever asked him what he wants you to do? Are you just supposed to put up with- his volatility? Are you supposed to divorce husband? What does difficult child want? Does he have any solutions or is he dumping all this on your shoulders? </p><p></p><p>Hang in there.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 59174, member: 8"] Peg, I hate to point this out, but you're assuming he will go to a wildnerness camp. If he's refusing help at home, he may very well refuse it somewhere else. Quite a few of us have run into the unfortunate situation where the "age of consent" for psychiatric treatment is far less than 18. In IL, for example, the age of consent is 12 for psychiatric treatment. Once they hit that age, they can refuse treatment unless they're a danger to themselves or others. Even then, medications cannot be forced and if it's a case of involuntary admission, the courts do get involved. I would put this on his shoulders, a la NVTS above. Is he happy? Does he like his life? If not, what is *he* going to do about it? You can't do anything other than offer support and options. If he won't avail himself, I think you're pretty much stuck until he hits 18. Personally, I wouldn't hesitate to call 911 for transport to a hospital for psychiatric evaluation if there's a threat of or actual violence. You deserve to be safe in your home. It does sound like you're dealing with- some really circular thinking (typical difficult child - ugh!). He's mad because you have told him he's out at 18 if he doesn't get his act together, but he won't get his act together and it's all your fault and that just makes him angrier. Don't get sucked into this (hard, I know). *His* life, *his* choices, he's more than welcome to stay (I think I'm understanding that from your posts) but only if he behaves like a civilized human being.... again, *his* choice. You are under no obligation to live with an adult child who needs help and refuses to seek it out. Just out of voyeuristic curiosity, have you ever asked him what he wants you to do? Are you just supposed to put up with- his volatility? Are you supposed to divorce husband? What does difficult child want? Does he have any solutions or is he dumping all this on your shoulders? Hang in there. [/QUOTE]
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