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butterflydreams
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So difficult child is making alot of progress at Residential Treatment Center (RTC). The way their program is set up, they earn passes every week, the passes range from 4 hours to a weekend. The week goes from Wednesday through Tuesday of the next week and then treatment team is held every Wednesday with passes earned issued after that. So week after last difficult child lost points and lost a level so instead of the weekend pass he was supposed to get, he got a 12 hour pass. I will find out tonight when I visit him what he gets for this weekend, I am anticipating a overnight pass which means 8am Saturday to 8pm Sunday.
Here is my situation. Towards the end of every pass - it doesn't matter how long the pass is - the last hour or 2, difficult child gets depressed and mopey and even sometimes has a little attitude, because he knows its almost time to go back and he doesn't want to. Some of the times it has been grief issues too, talking about missing his dad - which is good because they are really working on this. It makes it really hard for easy child and I. I understand he doesn't want to be there and he knows ultimately he has to go back, but it is soooo draining for the last hour or 2 of his pass.
I know he misses being at home, I understand that. I try to remind him that he gets a pass every weekend, and that I visit him during the week usually once. I also point out to him, just like his therapist did, that wouldn't he rather be there now and get better and hopefully not have to go back, then coming home too soon and ending up in there even longer. I remind him how good he is doing and that I am really proud of the hard work he is doing and so is everyone else.
I am hoping maybe someone has some suggestions on how better to handle this time during the ending of his visits that is so draining. We do have a routine of stopping at a McDonald's which is down the street from the facility to get a ice cream cone on our way back.
Other than this time towards the end of the visits, the visits have been going really good for the most part.
I plan on talking to his therapist about this too when I meet with her next week. I also write about it on his reports that I have to fill out at the end of the visit.
Thanks for any suggestions.
Here is my situation. Towards the end of every pass - it doesn't matter how long the pass is - the last hour or 2, difficult child gets depressed and mopey and even sometimes has a little attitude, because he knows its almost time to go back and he doesn't want to. Some of the times it has been grief issues too, talking about missing his dad - which is good because they are really working on this. It makes it really hard for easy child and I. I understand he doesn't want to be there and he knows ultimately he has to go back, but it is soooo draining for the last hour or 2 of his pass.
I know he misses being at home, I understand that. I try to remind him that he gets a pass every weekend, and that I visit him during the week usually once. I also point out to him, just like his therapist did, that wouldn't he rather be there now and get better and hopefully not have to go back, then coming home too soon and ending up in there even longer. I remind him how good he is doing and that I am really proud of the hard work he is doing and so is everyone else.
I am hoping maybe someone has some suggestions on how better to handle this time during the ending of his visits that is so draining. We do have a routine of stopping at a McDonald's which is down the street from the facility to get a ice cream cone on our way back.
Other than this time towards the end of the visits, the visits have been going really good for the most part.
I plan on talking to his therapist about this too when I meet with her next week. I also write about it on his reports that I have to fill out at the end of the visit.
Thanks for any suggestions.