Tiredof33
Active Member
Detaching is hard and to the outside world it can appear that we have turned our backs. That we are cold hearted and uncaring.
If they only knew the pain in our hearts............my difficult child has taught me the meaning of unconditional love.
My 34yo difficult child loves the drama and does not like to be alone. He posts dark poetry on facebook and has posted about depression and suicidal thoughts. Last Sunday he was posting about being suicidal and a friend told him to message her. He has threatened suicide for years and he is taking medication. He cuts himself and has since his teen years.
I don't go on facebook - my family has told me. There is not one thing I can do but pray. A 21yo male relative committed suicide two years ago and Monday a 45yo male cousin committed suicide. It has been a very emotional two weeks for me and my family.
When he told me they were starting a new job in TN last week he talked about visiting soon. He seemed more upbeat.
What will be will be... I read this passage from a book daily.
'Every suicide preventable by outside forces was indeed prevented. What this means is that if the suicidal person has the slightest openness to changing their mind, the Universe will stage an intervention. It could be something as simple as a bird flying by and distracting the person, or something as dramatic as an angel assuming human form and physically interceding. If you have lost a loved one to suicide, know this: There was literally nothing you could have done to save them. You are not to blame.
You are not at fault.
You did not fail them.
Therein rests your healing. Therein lies your peace."
May we all learn to detach and turn our lives and problems over to a higher power.
(((hugs for us all)))
If they only knew the pain in our hearts............my difficult child has taught me the meaning of unconditional love.
My 34yo difficult child loves the drama and does not like to be alone. He posts dark poetry on facebook and has posted about depression and suicidal thoughts. Last Sunday he was posting about being suicidal and a friend told him to message her. He has threatened suicide for years and he is taking medication. He cuts himself and has since his teen years.
I don't go on facebook - my family has told me. There is not one thing I can do but pray. A 21yo male relative committed suicide two years ago and Monday a 45yo male cousin committed suicide. It has been a very emotional two weeks for me and my family.
When he told me they were starting a new job in TN last week he talked about visiting soon. He seemed more upbeat.
What will be will be... I read this passage from a book daily.
'Every suicide preventable by outside forces was indeed prevented. What this means is that if the suicidal person has the slightest openness to changing their mind, the Universe will stage an intervention. It could be something as simple as a bird flying by and distracting the person, or something as dramatic as an angel assuming human form and physically interceding. If you have lost a loved one to suicide, know this: There was literally nothing you could have done to save them. You are not to blame.
You are not at fault.
You did not fail them.
Therein rests your healing. Therein lies your peace."
May we all learn to detach and turn our lives and problems over to a higher power.
(((hugs for us all)))