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Sundays are hard! (Warning whiny post ahead)
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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 467575" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>Hello Signorina. Sometimes it seems like there is no justice in the world. You were a devoted, caring, committed parent - you gave your time, your energy, your love, you tried really hard to do your best (what more can one do?), and the recipient of all this, your eldest son, repays you not with gratitude or returned love but with hostility and/or indifference. His own life is also in a mess, it seems. I on the other hand had c**p parents - I mean really c**p, the sort who you would hesitate choosing over being raised in an orphanage - profoundly narcissistic, profoundly indifferent to trying to do their best, neglectful and in many ways abusive, hopeful only that their children would look after and attend to them rather than vice versa and yet... My two brothers and I have never been involved in any crime, we are respectable citizens who hold down professional jobs and whereas I have not triumphed in the relationship stakes, my brothers have had long and happy marriages (not without a lot of therapy and one of them is a long-recovered alchoholic) and are good parents. So... my point is.... that it seems like in some way, sometimes, it's just the luck of the draw. My parents didn't deserve the children they got and your son didn't "deserve" the parents he got. It is very sad and hurtful for you indeed. But one thing you can do - and it seems to me that that one thing is precious indeed - is you can hold your head high to yourself and you can know that you did your best. No small claim. And the result of that... was, unfortunately, completely out of your hands. Hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 467575, member: 11227"] Hello Signorina. Sometimes it seems like there is no justice in the world. You were a devoted, caring, committed parent - you gave your time, your energy, your love, you tried really hard to do your best (what more can one do?), and the recipient of all this, your eldest son, repays you not with gratitude or returned love but with hostility and/or indifference. His own life is also in a mess, it seems. I on the other hand had c**p parents - I mean really c**p, the sort who you would hesitate choosing over being raised in an orphanage - profoundly narcissistic, profoundly indifferent to trying to do their best, neglectful and in many ways abusive, hopeful only that their children would look after and attend to them rather than vice versa and yet... My two brothers and I have never been involved in any crime, we are respectable citizens who hold down professional jobs and whereas I have not triumphed in the relationship stakes, my brothers have had long and happy marriages (not without a lot of therapy and one of them is a long-recovered alchoholic) and are good parents. So... my point is.... that it seems like in some way, sometimes, it's just the luck of the draw. My parents didn't deserve the children they got and your son didn't "deserve" the parents he got. It is very sad and hurtful for you indeed. But one thing you can do - and it seems to me that that one thing is precious indeed - is you can hold your head high to yourself and you can know that you did your best. No small claim. And the result of that... was, unfortunately, completely out of your hands. Hugs. [/QUOTE]
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