Support Groups

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by SuzyfromTexas, Jan 13, 2007.

  1. SuzyfromTexas

    SuzyfromTexas New Member

    Does anyone belong to any support groups? I know there are a few Texas posters on here. Do any of you know of anything in the D/FW area?

    Thanks.
     
  2. lordhelpme

    lordhelpme New Member

    here is a reply i received to a similar post

    "I've been where you are. Hate to tell you, but the deeper you dig, the madder you will become.

    There are a lot of ways you can help parents in your community, but I'll also tell you that the school district will frown upon it.

    National organizations such an NAMI, NICHY, The Arch, FFCMH, etc., have State headquarters and Chapters located throughout the State. Many offer parent trainings. Who knows -- you might even want to open your own Chapter after you learn the ropes.

    Som additional resources for you:

    Parent Training and Information Centers and Community Parent Resource Centers
    http://www.taalliance.org/centers/index.htm

    Yellow Pages for Kids with Disabilities with-Wrights Law:
    http://www.yellowpagesforkids.com/

    Your regional OSEP office would be a good resource also."
     
  3. DammitJanet

    DammitJanet Well-Known Member Staff Member

    There are usually local chapters of CHADD that can be found in larger cities. I dont live in texas but even in my really small town we attempted to start a chapter. It didnt work out because where I live they think Support Groups mean Athletic Supporters...lmao. They just dont go over well here. I actually went to an alzheimers group where it was me and the sw only...lmao. Oh well.

    I hope it turns out that you find some good real life groups.
     
  4. Marguerite

    Marguerite Active Member

    There are also different kinds of support groups. We've fallen into one in the last year, through a social skills course that was being offered by the state autism association. difficult child 3 only got to the last session, but through that I met the parents (all waiting outside and talking) and learned about other groups. We have a local disabled kids drama group which I finally got difficult child 3 into a few months ago. He has to mix with kids with a range of disabilities and frankly, I don't think it's working for him, but he's about to move into the older group this year so we'll keep an open mind. Most of the older group are autistic, but there are some brain-damaged and Downs kids too.

    The thing is, an offshoot of the drama group (from which the kids were recruited for the social skills group) was the autism support social group in our area. We organise outings on a monthly basis and the kids sometimes meet up at other times. difficult child 3 was going in to correspondence school study days with another of these kids, so they met at school as well as socially. And now, of course, the film they're involved in - a lot of kids from our social outings group are now involved in "Black Balloon" filming, because we're now part of a communication and information network.

    Sometimes we get together. Mostly we don't. But when we need to talk, we pick up the phone or email someone. And if you think about it - parents of difficult children often don't get out as much socially. We can't. When we do, we really understand the problems we're each facing, so if a kid is throwing a tantrum we just nod and smile. And offer sympathy once it's settled.

    Some support networks work like meetings, with a person up the front talking about new developments or introducing a guest speaker. Some work like a circle of chairs where people take turns to talk. Others work more informally, like a conversational free-for-all. Some include the kids, some don't. Some organise rallies, others take a low profile.

    What you need will vary, depending on your needs and where you are in your journey. Not everybody wants to belong to a group. Not everybody should belong to a group. Some groups can become toxic if led by someone on a power trip, or conversely, led by someone too weak to control someone on a power trip.

    But one thing is certain - if a group runs well there is power in numbers. There is advocacy, support and strength collectively. Where possible, work with whatever is available. If you want to branch out, try to do so under the umbrella of an existing group, so you don't have to duplicate resources.

    Good luck with your search.

    Marg
     
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