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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 588881" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>Peg....welcome. I actually think its probably a good thing for you and your son that he is in jail because you know where he is and that he is at least somewhere safe and getting fed and clothed. Jail isnt quite as bad as we imagine in our nightmares. Sure they cant come and go as they please but they do get a place to sleep that is dry and out of the weather. Better than being homeless. </p><p></p><p>At this point you can take the time to work on you and how you can learn to be the parent of an adult child with issues. Therapy is an excellent place to start. You want to learn how to love him but not enable him and love him to death. You want to learn how to be able to there on the sidelines to cheer him on when he does well but not take on his problems as your own. In other words, you wont him to grow up. If he doesnt, he will end up like my SO's brother...a 54 year old deadbeat loser who has taken up residence in my house because he refuses to do anything else and my SO wont toss his rear out.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 588881, member: 1514"] Peg....welcome. I actually think its probably a good thing for you and your son that he is in jail because you know where he is and that he is at least somewhere safe and getting fed and clothed. Jail isnt quite as bad as we imagine in our nightmares. Sure they cant come and go as they please but they do get a place to sleep that is dry and out of the weather. Better than being homeless. At this point you can take the time to work on you and how you can learn to be the parent of an adult child with issues. Therapy is an excellent place to start. You want to learn how to love him but not enable him and love him to death. You want to learn how to be able to there on the sidelines to cheer him on when he does well but not take on his problems as your own. In other words, you wont him to grow up. If he doesnt, he will end up like my SO's brother...a 54 year old deadbeat loser who has taken up residence in my house because he refuses to do anything else and my SO wont toss his rear out. [/QUOTE]
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