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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 594917" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>For some reason this all sounds like some of our family reunions. I was often the outcast because of my parents' choices. They were educated beyond high school or a bachelor's degree. Even though about 1/3 of the family is teachers, my folks stood out as different because they did not have our lives revolving around sports. Our lives revolved around books instead. Then my parents moved to OK and that is apparently a HUGE sin. So after that, if I was even told about the reunion AND invited/allowed to come, it was made clear that I was 'less than'. Big fun happy family, Know what I mean?? I hung out with those I enjoyed, period. A few peers, the kids, and often the catering staff (when the reunion is over 150 people, pot luck doesn't work so well - many of the 'well off' relatives bring all five or more kids and NO dish because of course they were special their presence was enough of a blessing - gag). </p><p></p><p>My advice? Load a book onto your phone or kindle (my phone can hold a book or two, though the small screen makes it something I only do in situation where a kindle would be obtrusive) and read through the boring/obnoxious bits. Or put an audiobook on your mp3 player and buy headphones that blend with your hair. </p><p></p><p>If no bar is available, bring a 'water' bottle. Of vodka. NOT to drink all yourself - share it with the other loser moms and then spend your time stirring up trouble. It is a LOT more fun than paying attention to whether you are at teh loser table or not. When overly annoyed, hold your index finger and thumb in front of your eye in a pincer grip. Aim it so that the obnoxious person is between the thumb and finger and imagine yourself squishing his/her head. juvenile, but it can be amusing, esp if other unpopular moms notice and realize what you are doing. It has helped me through many parent meetings for soccer, school, etc.... ANd other meetings. </p><p></p><p>No one is perfect and those parents who have 'stars' for kids and are all puffed up about it are the sad ones, in my opinion. They have so very little self worth that they determine their value by their child's accomplishments. It is fine, good and appropriate to be proud of your child. To let your child's accomplishments determine your self worth is pitiful. Simply being a parent does not mean that you deserve the credit for your child's accomplishments, and sadly those parents who do place such weight on what their child does often alienates the child and makes the child treat them with great disdain. Remembering this can help you get through those long and booooorrrring meetings.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 594917, member: 1233"] For some reason this all sounds like some of our family reunions. I was often the outcast because of my parents' choices. They were educated beyond high school or a bachelor's degree. Even though about 1/3 of the family is teachers, my folks stood out as different because they did not have our lives revolving around sports. Our lives revolved around books instead. Then my parents moved to OK and that is apparently a HUGE sin. So after that, if I was even told about the reunion AND invited/allowed to come, it was made clear that I was 'less than'. Big fun happy family, Know what I mean?? I hung out with those I enjoyed, period. A few peers, the kids, and often the catering staff (when the reunion is over 150 people, pot luck doesn't work so well - many of the 'well off' relatives bring all five or more kids and NO dish because of course they were special their presence was enough of a blessing - gag). My advice? Load a book onto your phone or kindle (my phone can hold a book or two, though the small screen makes it something I only do in situation where a kindle would be obtrusive) and read through the boring/obnoxious bits. Or put an audiobook on your mp3 player and buy headphones that blend with your hair. If no bar is available, bring a 'water' bottle. Of vodka. NOT to drink all yourself - share it with the other loser moms and then spend your time stirring up trouble. It is a LOT more fun than paying attention to whether you are at teh loser table or not. When overly annoyed, hold your index finger and thumb in front of your eye in a pincer grip. Aim it so that the obnoxious person is between the thumb and finger and imagine yourself squishing his/her head. juvenile, but it can be amusing, esp if other unpopular moms notice and realize what you are doing. It has helped me through many parent meetings for soccer, school, etc.... ANd other meetings. No one is perfect and those parents who have 'stars' for kids and are all puffed up about it are the sad ones, in my opinion. They have so very little self worth that they determine their value by their child's accomplishments. It is fine, good and appropriate to be proud of your child. To let your child's accomplishments determine your self worth is pitiful. Simply being a parent does not mean that you deserve the credit for your child's accomplishments, and sadly those parents who do place such weight on what their child does often alienates the child and makes the child treat them with great disdain. Remembering this can help you get through those long and booooorrrring meetings. [/QUOTE]
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