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<blockquote data-quote="Mickey2255" data-source="post: 122635" data-attributes="member: 3720"><p>Sorry for the very long delay in responding - all the sudden I stopped getting the emails but it looks like I needed to update my options with the software change. And in all honesty, I've been overwhelmed to the point where I visited the doctor on Friday for my first ever prescription for Ativan.</p><p></p><p>So I'll try to keep this short. A week ago we received the formal notice that difficult child was on permanent suspension and 2 days later we were to show up for his MDR meeting and the very next day we "could" attend the school's board meeting where they would vote on expulsion. Even though I knew the letter was coming it still knocked the wind out of me.</p><p></p><p>Had hired an advocate and met with her over the previous weekend and we spent a lot of time strategizing and planning. I've been pretty meticulous in documenting everything so she was pretty happy with my organization and simply aghast at what this dumb little school was trying to do (remember - it's a public charter school without much oversight).</p><p></p><p>After some serious discussion and thought we decided there was no way we wanted difficult child back at that school and just wanted to settle this quickly and quietly with as little hoopla as possible. I'm a pacifist at heart and always prefer to be logical and reasonable. So we came up with a letter for me to read at the MDR to invoke compassion asking the IEP team to help us develop a settlement offer that would have us agreeing to withdraw difficult child from the school at the end of the year while homeschooling him with school paying for sped services and a homeschooling consultant/curriculum. I also wrote one that was similar for the expulsion hearing asking the school board to suspend decision until the IEP team could develop a reasonable agreement. All very reasonable and logical. They help us educate my son at home where he's safe and the kids in the school are safe and we leave them alone at the end of the year. (Keep in mind that because this is a charter school there is no "district" and thus no alternative public school placements. There is one private school that would be possible but it's far from my first choice and Michigan is notorious for not doing private school placements. Homeschooling really does seem like the best choice).</p><p></p><p>On Monday night the two top dogs of the school (who happen to be married) decide they CAN meet with us and our advocate at 1:30 yesterday. I read an abbreviated version of my MDR letter and we hand them our proposal. Easy as that they agree to everything. They tell us they want their attorney to draw it up and I suggest that first we all sign the "draft" proposal as our intent to follow through. They have me add language that we agree to withdraw him at the end of the year and I do. Everyone signs and we walk out elated. We just saved a whole lot of money in attorney fees and they are giving us everything we asked for including help in developing a GOOD IEP that we can take to the next school district and the removal of all negative discipline records.</p><p></p><p>And then today the letter from the lawyer comes. Oh sure, he has all the same accommodations in there that we asked for but the agreement takes away ALL our rights to the point where if they don't actually provide the promised services/reimbursements, we can't do a darn thing about it! I don't think so!!!</p><p></p><p>This passive flower child mom just turned into a true warrior. The advocate agrees and has stopped charging me she feels so bad about the situation. We are now looking for a decent education attorney to review this document and then I'm going to start filing complaints and take this to due process. I figure I don't even need an especially good attorney - as of tomorrow they are out of compliance for not having the MDR. I have a good faith agreement signed. I have document after document telling them they aren't doing enough and my son is a time bomb every time he is teased. I signed the IEP that I disagreed back in October and they've never called another meeting. "I" had to request the BIP be updated several weeks ago.</p><p></p><p>I've been told that there are parents threatening to sue and/or pull their kids if my difficult child is not removed from the school (obviously parents of kids who teased him and got beat up for it). And rather than deal with this the right way, they are being bullies themselves. They know that if any of those parents sue, their names will be front and center for not having done enough for my difficult child.</p><p></p><p>We are in Michigan and I do have feelers out for an attorney but if anyone has any recommendations...and advice is always very welcome too! No more Mr. Nice Guy here!!!</p><p></p><p>Michelle</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mickey2255, post: 122635, member: 3720"] Sorry for the very long delay in responding - all the sudden I stopped getting the emails but it looks like I needed to update my options with the software change. And in all honesty, I've been overwhelmed to the point where I visited the doctor on Friday for my first ever prescription for Ativan. So I'll try to keep this short. A week ago we received the formal notice that difficult child was on permanent suspension and 2 days later we were to show up for his MDR meeting and the very next day we "could" attend the school's board meeting where they would vote on expulsion. Even though I knew the letter was coming it still knocked the wind out of me. Had hired an advocate and met with her over the previous weekend and we spent a lot of time strategizing and planning. I've been pretty meticulous in documenting everything so she was pretty happy with my organization and simply aghast at what this dumb little school was trying to do (remember - it's a public charter school without much oversight). After some serious discussion and thought we decided there was no way we wanted difficult child back at that school and just wanted to settle this quickly and quietly with as little hoopla as possible. I'm a pacifist at heart and always prefer to be logical and reasonable. So we came up with a letter for me to read at the MDR to invoke compassion asking the IEP team to help us develop a settlement offer that would have us agreeing to withdraw difficult child from the school at the end of the year while homeschooling him with school paying for sped services and a homeschooling consultant/curriculum. I also wrote one that was similar for the expulsion hearing asking the school board to suspend decision until the IEP team could develop a reasonable agreement. All very reasonable and logical. They help us educate my son at home where he's safe and the kids in the school are safe and we leave them alone at the end of the year. (Keep in mind that because this is a charter school there is no "district" and thus no alternative public school placements. There is one private school that would be possible but it's far from my first choice and Michigan is notorious for not doing private school placements. Homeschooling really does seem like the best choice). On Monday night the two top dogs of the school (who happen to be married) decide they CAN meet with us and our advocate at 1:30 yesterday. I read an abbreviated version of my MDR letter and we hand them our proposal. Easy as that they agree to everything. They tell us they want their attorney to draw it up and I suggest that first we all sign the "draft" proposal as our intent to follow through. They have me add language that we agree to withdraw him at the end of the year and I do. Everyone signs and we walk out elated. We just saved a whole lot of money in attorney fees and they are giving us everything we asked for including help in developing a GOOD IEP that we can take to the next school district and the removal of all negative discipline records. And then today the letter from the lawyer comes. Oh sure, he has all the same accommodations in there that we asked for but the agreement takes away ALL our rights to the point where if they don't actually provide the promised services/reimbursements, we can't do a darn thing about it! I don't think so!!! This passive flower child mom just turned into a true warrior. The advocate agrees and has stopped charging me she feels so bad about the situation. We are now looking for a decent education attorney to review this document and then I'm going to start filing complaints and take this to due process. I figure I don't even need an especially good attorney - as of tomorrow they are out of compliance for not having the MDR. I have a good faith agreement signed. I have document after document telling them they aren't doing enough and my son is a time bomb every time he is teased. I signed the IEP that I disagreed back in October and they've never called another meeting. "I" had to request the BIP be updated several weeks ago. I've been told that there are parents threatening to sue and/or pull their kids if my difficult child is not removed from the school (obviously parents of kids who teased him and got beat up for it). And rather than deal with this the right way, they are being bullies themselves. They know that if any of those parents sue, their names will be front and center for not having done enough for my difficult child. We are in Michigan and I do have feelers out for an attorney but if anyone has any recommendations...and advice is always very welcome too! No more Mr. Nice Guy here!!! Michelle [/QUOTE]
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