i need some opinions on this issue that came up today. my mom and i have been working with my 6 yr old's school, principal, teacher, guidance counselor on helping him to be able to stay in school without being sent home for getting out of control with his anger. today he was on "green" for the second day in a row (i'm SO proud) but when i picked him up at aftercare they said they were suspending him for 1 day because he did not want to listen and was disrespectful. at one point someone was trying to explain a rule to him and he said "that's gay". i asked him before we left the parking lot what did "gay" mean and he looked at me like he was clueless. hesaid the word a coupl of times like he had never heard it before! so i went back in because i didnt feel ok leaving just yet. i asked for a copy of the referral i signed andwas told they had tried numerous times to speak with him and he was being disrespectful. he had no idea he was in trouble because as i soon as i asked him why he was written up his mood changed. he was so proud he gotten on green (hadn't told me yet at this point) then he threw his backpack on the ground and refused to get in the car because he was so angry he was written up. i didnt focus on it because being good in class isthe most important thing he did today so i needed to praise him on that and waited to talk to him about after-school. i didnt think it was so i called back and told her i will talk to him about it, his feelings were hurt because the counselor refused to listen to what he had to say about someone pushing him so he got upset. however, he did NOT get physical, he did not push anything over, throw anything, cuss and ididnt think he should be suspended because he had a hard time following directions. what do you guys think?