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Sweet Betsy-What to say or not say or do?
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<blockquote data-quote="Mrs.McNear51" data-source="post: 432223" data-attributes="member: 11495"><p>It's amazing to me that I have this wonderful support group, some of which have been a part of my life for 10 years. I am truly blessed with all of you, and I thank you from the bottom of my heart . I read each of your responses and took your words to heart, thank you for taking the time to care about us.</p><p></p><p>Now that the initial shock has worn off, I am back to reality. I spoke with SB to see where her head is today, and she told me that she had pretty much decided to terminate the pregnancy. We discussed that whatever decision she makes, it is hers to live with. I'm not convinced she will go down that road, but she seems to be considering it. She is only 5 weeks along, has not been doing any drugs or drinking since she was first late, which I believe. She has been staying with her sister the last couple of weeks, and she vouched for her. She stayed completely clean when she was pregnant with Lincoln, and I believe she would do so again, if she chooses to carry this pregnancy to term.</p><p></p><p>I told both of my daughters when they became sexual active, and after I put them both on the pill, that I would not be raising their children. When SB left boyfriend and came back to town, she and Lincoln stayed with me for several months. Although I love Lincoln with all of my heart, it was not a good situation for any of us. When SB made the decision that she would not raise Lincoln with no help from boyfriend, she sent Lincoln to live with boyfriend's mother. boyfriend has been clean for the last year and a half, after being on heroin for a couple years. He has a nice, sweet girlfriend who he and Lincoln have started to make a family with. Lincoln is safe, well adjusted, happy and well taken care of. He was home for a few days this winter, SB spent time with him, but admitted to me that he is in the best place he could be...as much as it hurts to not have him close, it's what is best for him.</p><p></p><p>The point being, I will not raise this child either. She does not have the option of having this child and living with me. I will be supportive with whatever choice she makes, but I will not put myself in the position to be a primary care giver. I am 51 years old and that ship has sailed.</p><p></p><p>The father of this child is a decent guy, one that she dated and slept with for a couple weeks, and then decided she did not want to have a relationship with him. She told him earlier this week that she was pregnant and they are meeting tomorrow to talk. Oh boy.</p><p></p><p>My thoughts are still all over the place. I'm trying my best to contain them and more than anything, I continue to pray.Given a few more days, I hope to have alittle more peace about it in my own soul. </p><p></p><p>I'll keep you posted and I thank you all for your concern. You guys have always been the best. And Auntie Star, no apology from you will ever be needed. You always come from a heart of gold.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mrs.McNear51, post: 432223, member: 11495"] It's amazing to me that I have this wonderful support group, some of which have been a part of my life for 10 years. I am truly blessed with all of you, and I thank you from the bottom of my heart . I read each of your responses and took your words to heart, thank you for taking the time to care about us. Now that the initial shock has worn off, I am back to reality. I spoke with SB to see where her head is today, and she told me that she had pretty much decided to terminate the pregnancy. We discussed that whatever decision she makes, it is hers to live with. I'm not convinced she will go down that road, but she seems to be considering it. She is only 5 weeks along, has not been doing any drugs or drinking since she was first late, which I believe. She has been staying with her sister the last couple of weeks, and she vouched for her. She stayed completely clean when she was pregnant with Lincoln, and I believe she would do so again, if she chooses to carry this pregnancy to term. I told both of my daughters when they became sexual active, and after I put them both on the pill, that I would not be raising their children. When SB left boyfriend and came back to town, she and Lincoln stayed with me for several months. Although I love Lincoln with all of my heart, it was not a good situation for any of us. When SB made the decision that she would not raise Lincoln with no help from boyfriend, she sent Lincoln to live with boyfriend's mother. boyfriend has been clean for the last year and a half, after being on heroin for a couple years. He has a nice, sweet girlfriend who he and Lincoln have started to make a family with. Lincoln is safe, well adjusted, happy and well taken care of. He was home for a few days this winter, SB spent time with him, but admitted to me that he is in the best place he could be...as much as it hurts to not have him close, it's what is best for him. The point being, I will not raise this child either. She does not have the option of having this child and living with me. I will be supportive with whatever choice she makes, but I will not put myself in the position to be a primary care giver. I am 51 years old and that ship has sailed. The father of this child is a decent guy, one that she dated and slept with for a couple weeks, and then decided she did not want to have a relationship with him. She told him earlier this week that she was pregnant and they are meeting tomorrow to talk. Oh boy. My thoughts are still all over the place. I'm trying my best to contain them and more than anything, I continue to pray.Given a few more days, I hope to have alittle more peace about it in my own soul. I'll keep you posted and I thank you all for your concern. You guys have always been the best. And Auntie Star, no apology from you will ever be needed. You always come from a heart of gold. [/QUOTE]
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