I have been catching my daughter taking food to her boyfriend, she's hardly here anymore, comes to eat sometimes then is back out the door, she was putting food in to her backpack the other day and I asked her why, (knowing she was taking it to the boyfriend, he is banned from our house, posted about him before, thieving, drugs etc) and she said it was all for her, two of everything?? hm..... I said she can't take food out for him, it costs money and no, she can't do it, she blew up and left. It sounds so petty but it is a lot of food going out and the boyfriend is doing nothing to help himself so I feel it's enabling him. I have always fed people, don't mind at all, I like to but not with boyfriend anymore. She came home earlier today to change clothes, boyfriend sat outside on the curb, they are going to walk (can't use car as she was letting him drive it..) all the way to the mall to put an application in to Victoria's Secret, they're hiring, they are going to have to dodge traffic on at least 2 major highways, and the mall is 35 mins but that's by car, she said they'll make it by midnight hopefully.. So, off they go and my daughter is wearing short, shorts and a top soooo low..don't you think you should change before putting a work application in? answer: Nope.. I just let her go out the door and didn't say anything else, it actually felt good not to go on and on, does no good really, from all the good advice here I have stepped back! still so worried but don't say much anymore.