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<blockquote data-quote="exhausted" data-source="post: 446512" data-attributes="member: 11001"><p>I am so sorry this has happened to your boy. I don't know the specifics-maybe a little insight would help. You say you have used advocacy groups so I am assuming you have used the local law center for people with disabilities? To me, once you reach an impass, you have 2 options, one is to rest assured you have done what is in your power to get justice and it is just not possible, or to spend money on legal counsel. You have to decide what you can live with. Can you help your son heal and move on, or are the things that happened to him too bad to let go? (PTSD makes me wonder how severe these things were). In the long run, what will benefit him more? Are there other schooling options? I will tell you that school districts and teacher's unions can be a bear to fight. Have you had a fair hearing with an outside mediator? If you can't let it go, you will have to get legal counsel. Finding affordable help is tough-been there done that.My daughter has PTSD brought on by repeated sexual abuse by her teenage cousin when she was only 4/5 years old. She has been a victom since then. We have reported all this over a year and a half ago with all contact numbers and addresses and so on. Nothing has happened with the 3 reported cases. We too feel so much anger at times. I have been labelled as over-protective. Too bad, I do what I feel I must for my child. The discomfort of others is not my (nor your) problem when they do not do what is needed for my child. We have decided that if the state will not act, we will, when and if our daughter wants us to. The justice is for her. If she is ok moving on and wants to move forward, we will support this as well. How does your boy feel? Does he understand what is happeneing?I think the fact that you have advocated for your boy also lets schools know you are watching. I think it is ok to say that you love your kid, have little trust for the school system, and you will be hovering whether they like it or not. I know it doesn't feel good to be labeled, but you have to do what you think will keep him safe. Lastly, have you stopped to look at your behavior? I,m not being critical-because I had to do this for me as well. Have I been reactive at times, do I need to patch up anything? Am I being reasonable? If the answer is, I've done my best, decide to move on or decide to get legal help. A big hug to you!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="exhausted, post: 446512, member: 11001"] I am so sorry this has happened to your boy. I don't know the specifics-maybe a little insight would help. You say you have used advocacy groups so I am assuming you have used the local law center for people with disabilities? To me, once you reach an impass, you have 2 options, one is to rest assured you have done what is in your power to get justice and it is just not possible, or to spend money on legal counsel. You have to decide what you can live with. Can you help your son heal and move on, or are the things that happened to him too bad to let go? (PTSD makes me wonder how severe these things were). In the long run, what will benefit him more? Are there other schooling options? I will tell you that school districts and teacher's unions can be a bear to fight. Have you had a fair hearing with an outside mediator? If you can't let it go, you will have to get legal counsel. Finding affordable help is tough-been there done that.My daughter has PTSD brought on by repeated sexual abuse by her teenage cousin when she was only 4/5 years old. She has been a victom since then. We have reported all this over a year and a half ago with all contact numbers and addresses and so on. Nothing has happened with the 3 reported cases. We too feel so much anger at times. I have been labelled as over-protective. Too bad, I do what I feel I must for my child. The discomfort of others is not my (nor your) problem when they do not do what is needed for my child. We have decided that if the state will not act, we will, when and if our daughter wants us to. The justice is for her. If she is ok moving on and wants to move forward, we will support this as well. How does your boy feel? Does he understand what is happeneing?I think the fact that you have advocated for your boy also lets schools know you are watching. I think it is ok to say that you love your kid, have little trust for the school system, and you will be hovering whether they like it or not. I know it doesn't feel good to be labeled, but you have to do what you think will keep him safe. Lastly, have you stopped to look at your behavior? I,m not being critical-because I had to do this for me as well. Have I been reactive at times, do I need to patch up anything? Am I being reasonable? If the answer is, I've done my best, decide to move on or decide to get legal help. A big hug to you! [/QUOTE]
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