dashcat
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My difficult child (age 20) recently moved back in with me following a break up with her live-in doofus ...er, I mean "boyfriend". Anyway, it's been going fairly well ..or so I thought. She's been respectful, has been hanging around here when she's not working, and is appreciating the comforts of home.
When she asked to come back, I told her she could - as long as she observed my house rules which are:
1. No drugs. 2. No alcohol 3. Must maintain my standards of a clean house and 4. No internet dudes at my home. The rules aren't limited to the above, but this is where we started.
I am not always awake when she comes home from work but, when I am, she certainly appears sober. I've not seen any signs of her being high or smelled pot on her or in her car.
So what's the problem?
Well, her dad was here last night getting the WiFi set up so she could use her laptop here. He tells me, casually, this story of him witnessing a drug deal going down in the parking lot of her apartment when he helped her move out. A few minutes later, a cop pulls in and parks by another building. Dad suggests they tell cop what just went down. difficult child balks and finally says "Dad,I just took a few hits while you were out here. I can't talk to a cop stoned. OMG. Mr. Ostrich, of course, does nothing ...says nothing. Later she brags to him that I can't tell when she's high.
I did read the thread about signs of drug use. I'm not seeing any of th at here - but when she lived with her dad (for 15 months before getting the apt), her room was a toxic waste dump, she slept all the time, was moody/depressed.
My therapist told me pot users don't just stop. I'm of the age where I remember it to be fairly harmless. I smoked my share and then just drifted away from it. therapist also says that pot is much more powerful now.
What should I be looking for? I don't know if she lied to her dad to keep him from talking to the cop (and I can't believe he DIDN
T say something to the cop) or if she's really using.
Advice?
Dash
When she asked to come back, I told her she could - as long as she observed my house rules which are:
1. No drugs. 2. No alcohol 3. Must maintain my standards of a clean house and 4. No internet dudes at my home. The rules aren't limited to the above, but this is where we started.
I am not always awake when she comes home from work but, when I am, she certainly appears sober. I've not seen any signs of her being high or smelled pot on her or in her car.
So what's the problem?
Well, her dad was here last night getting the WiFi set up so she could use her laptop here. He tells me, casually, this story of him witnessing a drug deal going down in the parking lot of her apartment when he helped her move out. A few minutes later, a cop pulls in and parks by another building. Dad suggests they tell cop what just went down. difficult child balks and finally says "Dad,I just took a few hits while you were out here. I can't talk to a cop stoned. OMG. Mr. Ostrich, of course, does nothing ...says nothing. Later she brags to him that I can't tell when she's high.
I did read the thread about signs of drug use. I'm not seeing any of th at here - but when she lived with her dad (for 15 months before getting the apt), her room was a toxic waste dump, she slept all the time, was moody/depressed.
My therapist told me pot users don't just stop. I'm of the age where I remember it to be fairly harmless. I smoked my share and then just drifted away from it. therapist also says that pot is much more powerful now.
What should I be looking for? I don't know if she lied to her dad to keep him from talking to the cop (and I can't believe he DIDN
T say something to the cop) or if she's really using.
Advice?
Dash
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