The therapist who's doing difficult child's individual therapy and our family therapy called today and we talked a very long time. It went better than I expected but not as good as I had hoped. Clearly, she is just another one who thinks difficult children' issues are the parents fault. I tried to stress that parents cannot teach kids to be responsible for their behavior when they see so many others blaming the parent. You know, I'm so tired of one saying I didn't spank him enough as a young child, another saying I spanked him too much, another person saying I need to keep a closer eye on him, then another saying I should let him do more at home, then answering to why "I'm letting him look at porn on the computer" (are they kidding?), and now "I drove him to it". Do these people really think a parent can be effective when the kid hears all this? Nevertheless, she recommended the book "Positive Discipline". Is anyone here familiar with this book and if so, what did you think of it? I have never heard of it.