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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 385687" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Thanks for all the advice- everyone! I'm home for the weekend now. </p><p></p><p>As far as talking about personal business at work- I agree however for some reason 95% of the places I've worked just simply don't let that happen. And most seem to take it as rudeness or hiding something if you don't answer their questions or steer away from it too much. I steered away from one today though after my boss came back from answering his phone- he had been asking about difficult child. When he came back I asked him a question- I think I asked how long he'd been living in this area- in order to change the subject politely.</p><p></p><p>Then another guy joined in and started talking about some personal stuff about my boss. After he went to lunch, my boss wanted me to know the guy was jokingly exaggerating (I had figured that) but tried to clarify by telling me even more personal stuff about himself. LOL! </p><p></p><p>As far as the tremors- I used to try to hide it but previous employers and co-workers would think it was all from anxiety or that I was just an emotional basketcase. I much prefer for them to know the truth than be treated that way. Anxiety/stress make it worse, but it's not the same thing. On the inside I don't think I get any more nervous than the typical person would/does in the same situation. It just makes my tremors worse so it gets interpreted differently. This way, when I'm perfectly calm but still show a little tremor, at least they know that doesn't mean anything emotional or anxiety related.</p><p></p><p>But you have good points, Trinity, and since I don't know the coworker other than the few days right at first, I will be cordial to her too and try not to make it look like we're in competition. Actually we have two completely different job descriptions so I'm hoping that won't be a problem.</p><p></p><p>I think this boss has already seen for himself that there was no more to it than what I told him. He sat beside me and gave me some training today. We've chatted some more- not about the job position exactly- but I'm pretty sure he realizes that I'm working as normal as anyone. I just have minor tremors in my hands sometimes. And I think he's over his panic about it. He knows I'm coming in early for work (about 10-15 mins- nothing extreme) and trying to learn, being cordial to everyone, etc.</p><p></p><p>I do think some of this might be the coworker who wanted to "test" me and she has been gone for work all week but will be back Monday. I think it has been a good thing that my boss, the client/rep that works right in our area with us, and I have had this time this week without her here, just in case she is a jealous or insecure coworker who wants to make sure she keeps her status but does so by sabatoging others. I've had time to work alone with them around, work with them each individually, and chat with both of them at the same time. All three of our comfort levels have greatly improved this week, I think. The coworker is younger, gossips with other clients/reps there, etc, so I wouldn't be shocked if my boss's reaction last week might have had something to do with whatever choice of words she used.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 385687, member: 3699"] Thanks for all the advice- everyone! I'm home for the weekend now. As far as talking about personal business at work- I agree however for some reason 95% of the places I've worked just simply don't let that happen. And most seem to take it as rudeness or hiding something if you don't answer their questions or steer away from it too much. I steered away from one today though after my boss came back from answering his phone- he had been asking about difficult child. When he came back I asked him a question- I think I asked how long he'd been living in this area- in order to change the subject politely. Then another guy joined in and started talking about some personal stuff about my boss. After he went to lunch, my boss wanted me to know the guy was jokingly exaggerating (I had figured that) but tried to clarify by telling me even more personal stuff about himself. LOL! As far as the tremors- I used to try to hide it but previous employers and co-workers would think it was all from anxiety or that I was just an emotional basketcase. I much prefer for them to know the truth than be treated that way. Anxiety/stress make it worse, but it's not the same thing. On the inside I don't think I get any more nervous than the typical person would/does in the same situation. It just makes my tremors worse so it gets interpreted differently. This way, when I'm perfectly calm but still show a little tremor, at least they know that doesn't mean anything emotional or anxiety related. But you have good points, Trinity, and since I don't know the coworker other than the few days right at first, I will be cordial to her too and try not to make it look like we're in competition. Actually we have two completely different job descriptions so I'm hoping that won't be a problem. I think this boss has already seen for himself that there was no more to it than what I told him. He sat beside me and gave me some training today. We've chatted some more- not about the job position exactly- but I'm pretty sure he realizes that I'm working as normal as anyone. I just have minor tremors in my hands sometimes. And I think he's over his panic about it. He knows I'm coming in early for work (about 10-15 mins- nothing extreme) and trying to learn, being cordial to everyone, etc. I do think some of this might be the coworker who wanted to "test" me and she has been gone for work all week but will be back Monday. I think it has been a good thing that my boss, the client/rep that works right in our area with us, and I have had this time this week without her here, just in case she is a jealous or insecure coworker who wants to make sure she keeps her status but does so by sabatoging others. I've had time to work alone with them around, work with them each individually, and chat with both of them at the same time. All three of our comfort levels have greatly improved this week, I think. The coworker is younger, gossips with other clients/reps there, etc, so I wouldn't be shocked if my boss's reaction last week might have had something to do with whatever choice of words she used. [/QUOTE]
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