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Talked to husband last night. Ideas? Thoughts? Am I expecting too much?
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<blockquote data-quote="Shari" data-source="post: 418795" data-attributes="member: 1848"><p>Jen, I have. I have stopped doing in the past and it got me NO WHERE, and this is where I need to post the pics of his childhood home. What he will tolerate for living conditions would get kids taken away if DFS is called. I've been in his parents' home and found maggots on the counter. I'm sorry, I can ignore a lot...I can't ignore to that end.</p><p>I have stopped working on his vehicle, and I will not purchase another one for him, nor will he drive mine if he blows this one up. And the talk was not any different. Not in the least. I can not change him, but I also really feel he doesn't want me to leave, so I feel I have a tiny amounf of currency left with him - I just don't want to waste it by doing things wrong or ineffective, etc. I look to myself to change in any given situation almost to a fault...I'm a problem solver...what can I do to fix this. And that's what's gotten me to were I am.</p><p>Step, the what do I do, I'm not asking in general...I guess I'm asking with regard's to Linda's article, because I think I'm doiing all that (and yes....my mind is made up...he either gets it, or there likely wont be an us anymore. If I start selling off the camper and the horses, he won't stay around. And I'll either do that, or I'll just tell him to go. Haven't decided that yet. Am I willing to give up the things I love to do for a man that will be quite content in front of the boob tube...my answer right now is no..I think that would be kinda shooting myself in the foot.). I praise him just like I do the kids, I will stop myself mid-sentence and rephrase things during arguments to follow the "fight fair" rules, I don't like shopping because of the "mind wandering" thing...I'm content with what I have if I don't go looking at what's available. What am I missing in that article? I guess that's what I was asking.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Shari, post: 418795, member: 1848"] Jen, I have. I have stopped doing in the past and it got me NO WHERE, and this is where I need to post the pics of his childhood home. What he will tolerate for living conditions would get kids taken away if DFS is called. I've been in his parents' home and found maggots on the counter. I'm sorry, I can ignore a lot...I can't ignore to that end. I have stopped working on his vehicle, and I will not purchase another one for him, nor will he drive mine if he blows this one up. And the talk was not any different. Not in the least. I can not change him, but I also really feel he doesn't want me to leave, so I feel I have a tiny amounf of currency left with him - I just don't want to waste it by doing things wrong or ineffective, etc. I look to myself to change in any given situation almost to a fault...I'm a problem solver...what can I do to fix this. And that's what's gotten me to were I am. Step, the what do I do, I'm not asking in general...I guess I'm asking with regard's to Linda's article, because I think I'm doiing all that (and yes....my mind is made up...he either gets it, or there likely wont be an us anymore. If I start selling off the camper and the horses, he won't stay around. And I'll either do that, or I'll just tell him to go. Haven't decided that yet. Am I willing to give up the things I love to do for a man that will be quite content in front of the boob tube...my answer right now is no..I think that would be kinda shooting myself in the foot.). I praise him just like I do the kids, I will stop myself mid-sentence and rephrase things during arguments to follow the "fight fair" rules, I don't like shopping because of the "mind wandering" thing...I'm content with what I have if I don't go looking at what's available. What am I missing in that article? I guess that's what I was asking. [/QUOTE]
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