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<blockquote data-quote="Janna" data-source="post: 25851" data-attributes="member: 2737"><p>Good morning,</p><p></p><p>I'm sorry I missed your post yesterday. I'm certainly no professional, so I don't know how much good advice I could give, however, I do have a 10 year old (Dylan) in an Emotional Support classroom with an IEP because of behaviors.</p><p></p><p>First, I think that you're not going to get very far no matter what you do without the parent's help. Please don't think I'm purposely trying to be negative, that is not my intention, but if the child is acting this way in school, going home and things are sugar coated and hunky dory, he's learning nothing. That's my .02. The mother doesn't even want to hear about the behaviors at all from the communication log. That's bad.</p><p></p><p>Dylan, at one time, was physically agressive, however between the right medications and my persistence with behavior modification, we squashed all that. He has had several minor (minor in comparison to what you're dealing with) incidents in the ES classroom where he kinda goes "flat", doesn't speak, doesn't work, etc. Then a couple of crying fits as well, usually during specials (gym, art, music), where he just doesn't want to be there, and starts throwing a little fit.</p><p></p><p>The teacher made him up a "prize box" at school. He's given a number every couple of hours for behavior, 1 is worst, 4 is best, and if he gets 3's and 4's for 3 days straight, he gets something out of this prize box. For your child, I'd just do half days at first, then spread it out longer, but if your child is an unstable Mood Disorder (which probably means Bipolar, that's what Dylan started with), it's going to be hard. It's worked really well for my son, but this is what we did for our own behavior mod here at home. I did the charts, the rewards, all of that. It doesn't work for alot of the kids here, but it did for mine, because I was consistent, firm and very mean lol.</p><p></p><p>I will also say that I consequence here at home for behaviors in school, which makes it harder for all my children, even my easy child. I do NOT agree to allow behaviors in school to slide, and this is a big factor with them. You don't have this support from the mother, this is going to be another problem. Your child can leave school at the end of the day, he probably goes home and mother doesn't care, and it's over for him, he can probably do whatever he wants to do.</p><p></p><p>in my opinion, you need to get the mom on board. Sounds like he also could use a good medication check. I think what you're doing is fabulous, and I also think you're crazy (no offense intended, but I don't let my own kids touch me, never mind someone else's) to keep yourself in harms way, but I don't think you're going to make progress with no parental help.</p><p></p><p>None of my kids would be where they are today if it wasn't for me. </p><p></p><p>(yeah that sounds like I have a big head on my shoulders lol, but it's true)</p><p></p><p>Janna</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Janna, post: 25851, member: 2737"] Good morning, I'm sorry I missed your post yesterday. I'm certainly no professional, so I don't know how much good advice I could give, however, I do have a 10 year old (Dylan) in an Emotional Support classroom with an IEP because of behaviors. First, I think that you're not going to get very far no matter what you do without the parent's help. Please don't think I'm purposely trying to be negative, that is not my intention, but if the child is acting this way in school, going home and things are sugar coated and hunky dory, he's learning nothing. That's my .02. The mother doesn't even want to hear about the behaviors at all from the communication log. That's bad. Dylan, at one time, was physically agressive, however between the right medications and my persistence with behavior modification, we squashed all that. He has had several minor (minor in comparison to what you're dealing with) incidents in the ES classroom where he kinda goes "flat", doesn't speak, doesn't work, etc. Then a couple of crying fits as well, usually during specials (gym, art, music), where he just doesn't want to be there, and starts throwing a little fit. The teacher made him up a "prize box" at school. He's given a number every couple of hours for behavior, 1 is worst, 4 is best, and if he gets 3's and 4's for 3 days straight, he gets something out of this prize box. For your child, I'd just do half days at first, then spread it out longer, but if your child is an unstable Mood Disorder (which probably means Bipolar, that's what Dylan started with), it's going to be hard. It's worked really well for my son, but this is what we did for our own behavior mod here at home. I did the charts, the rewards, all of that. It doesn't work for alot of the kids here, but it did for mine, because I was consistent, firm and very mean lol. I will also say that I consequence here at home for behaviors in school, which makes it harder for all my children, even my easy child. I do NOT agree to allow behaviors in school to slide, and this is a big factor with them. You don't have this support from the mother, this is going to be another problem. Your child can leave school at the end of the day, he probably goes home and mother doesn't care, and it's over for him, he can probably do whatever he wants to do. in my opinion, you need to get the mom on board. Sounds like he also could use a good medication check. I think what you're doing is fabulous, and I also think you're crazy (no offense intended, but I don't let my own kids touch me, never mind someone else's) to keep yourself in harms way, but I don't think you're going to make progress with no parental help. None of my kids would be where they are today if it wasn't for me. (yeah that sounds like I have a big head on my shoulders lol, but it's true) Janna [/QUOTE]
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