I picked difficult child up from school yesterday afternoon. The teacher that we have trouble with was there. I was later than usual, so there were only a few kids left in the classroom, but I can gaurantee you that wouldn't have mattered. *** I walked in and saw difficult child sitting in a chair beside his teacher, apparently in time out. The teacher, from her chair across the room, started telling me how terrible he had been all day, how he had made one bad choice after another, how she had probably made the aide mad, but told her to sit back down and ignore him when she got up to go to him, and then how he had gotten "sassy" and had to be kept in from playing outside and held. *** I asked what he did. She told me he made bad choices. Then she said she had gotten it worked out of him for the day so we'd probably go home and have a wonderful evening. She said it doesn't matter if he likes her or not, he NEEDS to do this. She also said "he can do this" over and over, "he just chooses not to", "he just needs consistency". *** By this point, I was fuming about the aide not being allowed to step in and help. I wanted to ask this woman, now that difficult child has been in her class for the past 18 months, just how this "consistency" thing is working out for her - cause he's worse now at school than when he started, and he got DRASTICALLY worse this summer when this woman was his primary teacher. *** I asked difficult child on the way home what happened. He said he wasn't sitting right and got in time out for it. He said he wanted to ask the aide to take him to the quiet spot, but the teacher wouldn't let him. *** So I confirmed the story with the aide. Who knows if difficult child was really going to ask for help or not (he often does, tho), but the aide WAS heading to difficult child to redirect him and was told by the teacher to leave him alone and ignore it. Subsequently, difficult child escalated and started yelling profanities at the teacher. By some unknown force, difficult child didn't escalate it further, and both the aide and I were suprised at this - she said most of the time when he gets like this, he has to be physically moved from one spot to another, but yesterday, he moved himself - so he must have had some semblance of control thru it, which must have been why we didn't end up with flying furniture again. But I don't call this progress. *** His primary teacher is out again, so he will have this "problem" teacher again today. I will be scheduling a meeting with the school director about this. If he can't receive help and redirection from the aide (who is frequently able to head off outbursts like this), there's no point in sending him there.