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<blockquote data-quote="starcloaked" data-source="post: 81711" data-attributes="member: 3632"><p>Oh wow, this poor kid. He's lucky to have you, but wow, too bad you're not in Mass. because my school is hiring for an aide, and at least we've got a plan and professionals who are charting the course a little. I'd suggest you ask the SPED staff to give you some sort of behavior plan, though I imagine they probably haven't done one, since it seems to require a team of lawyers to get SPED services and this kid's parents aren't helping. You might want to mention "child find" responsibilities to the school, since if you have success with him your job is probably incredibly secure. That's the law that says they have to get him into SPED even if the parents aren't advocating.</p><p></p><p>One thing that has worked with my son, who could be described like this, is to become his ally. Develop trust, look for what he's communicating with the behavior, spell EVERYTHING out for him about what's expected in a supportive tone of voice (along the lines of Greene, the behavior is probably a symptom of fear or an inability to understand what's going on, which translates to fear). My son has confided in my, in a whisper, that his new class has "too much guessing." This has resulted in awful behavior from him--he just gets overwhelmed and scared and lashes out. It can be hard to see the fear when someone's swinging punches at you, but if you think "caged animal" it comes through. It can be hard, but compassion is key.</p><p></p><p>The suggestion to find out what he's interested in is really valuable. Then you can keep him engaged (and have leverage) by getting him focused on that.</p><p></p><p>Finally, I really posted (I *do* go on lately) because I've just been trolling a site for teachers and school staff. It's here <a href="http://www.behavioradvisor.com" target="_blank">http://www.behavioradvisor.com</a> I was impressed by how practical the advice was.</p><p></p><p>Good luck. Let us know how it goes, okay?</p><p></p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="starcloaked, post: 81711, member: 3632"] Oh wow, this poor kid. He's lucky to have you, but wow, too bad you're not in Mass. because my school is hiring for an aide, and at least we've got a plan and professionals who are charting the course a little. I'd suggest you ask the SPED staff to give you some sort of behavior plan, though I imagine they probably haven't done one, since it seems to require a team of lawyers to get SPED services and this kid's parents aren't helping. You might want to mention "child find" responsibilities to the school, since if you have success with him your job is probably incredibly secure. That's the law that says they have to get him into SPED even if the parents aren't advocating. One thing that has worked with my son, who could be described like this, is to become his ally. Develop trust, look for what he's communicating with the behavior, spell EVERYTHING out for him about what's expected in a supportive tone of voice (along the lines of Greene, the behavior is probably a symptom of fear or an inability to understand what's going on, which translates to fear). My son has confided in my, in a whisper, that his new class has "too much guessing." This has resulted in awful behavior from him--he just gets overwhelmed and scared and lashes out. It can be hard to see the fear when someone's swinging punches at you, but if you think "caged animal" it comes through. It can be hard, but compassion is key. The suggestion to find out what he's interested in is really valuable. Then you can keep him engaged (and have leverage) by getting him focused on that. Finally, I really posted (I *do* go on lately) because I've just been trolling a site for teachers and school staff. It's here [url]http://www.behavioradvisor.com[/url] I was impressed by how practical the advice was. Good luck. Let us know how it goes, okay? Star [/QUOTE]
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