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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 91148" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>I don't think there is anyway to control what your teen is exposed to once they reach driving age. Parents often "think"</p><p>that they know who the "good" and "bad" teens are and try to</p><p>direct their teen to hang out with the "good" ones. on the other hand the</p><p>"good" kids are often just good at presenting themselves as</p><p>aok in front of parents. Some of the kids that seem like bad</p><p>news are in fact truly grounded in good values. You can't tell.</p><p></p><p>All my kids have been told everything I could think of to encourage them to make good choices. They have all been told to</p><p>telephone at any hour and they would be picked up with no questions asked. The decisions.........darn it!..........have</p><p>to be made by the teens when faced with the choice at the moment.</p><p></p><p>As I posted a few months ago I did have one plan that worked with</p><p>some of the kids. I'm sure it would not work for everyone. We</p><p>(my teens and I) had a deal that "if" they were in a situation</p><p>that made them uncomfortable they could "blame me" by telling</p><p>their friends with great disgust "I HAVE to call my Mom." Then,</p><p>they would call and have a fake dialog that eventually got to</p><p>"What?? I have to come home???" Sometimes a friend of theirs</p><p>would insist on getting on the phone with me to explain that</p><p>everything was fine and the parent home etc. etc. I would go</p><p>and pick up my "angry" teen. Once we were on the way home I</p><p>would usually hear "thanks Mom". Sometimes I didn't hear anything which made me believe something ugly was going on that</p><p>was not meant for my ears."</p><p></p><p>It's hard. There is no answer. Good luck. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 91148, member: 35"] I don't think there is anyway to control what your teen is exposed to once they reach driving age. Parents often "think" that they know who the "good" and "bad" teens are and try to direct their teen to hang out with the "good" ones. on the other hand the "good" kids are often just good at presenting themselves as aok in front of parents. Some of the kids that seem like bad news are in fact truly grounded in good values. You can't tell. All my kids have been told everything I could think of to encourage them to make good choices. They have all been told to telephone at any hour and they would be picked up with no questions asked. The decisions.........darn it!..........have to be made by the teens when faced with the choice at the moment. As I posted a few months ago I did have one plan that worked with some of the kids. I'm sure it would not work for everyone. We (my teens and I) had a deal that "if" they were in a situation that made them uncomfortable they could "blame me" by telling their friends with great disgust "I HAVE to call my Mom." Then, they would call and have a fake dialog that eventually got to "What?? I have to come home???" Sometimes a friend of theirs would insist on getting on the phone with me to explain that everything was fine and the parent home etc. etc. I would go and pick up my "angry" teen. Once we were on the way home I would usually hear "thanks Mom". Sometimes I didn't hear anything which made me believe something ugly was going on that was not meant for my ears." It's hard. There is no answer. Good luck. DDD [/QUOTE]
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