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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 91358" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p>It is inevitable, in my opinion, that our kids will experiment with alcohol. Some will figure out their tolerance level by having awful hangovers and others will crave the 'drunk'.</p><p></p><p>Marg's version of teaching about alcohol is pretty much the way we are at our house, perhaps not so young (10, Marg?? lol), but still. Unfortunately, it's been a bit of struggle as my H has his own alcoholism issues, but overall I think it all worked out okay with easy child. She has certain drinks she likes, only drinks quality and doesn't drink till she's sick. Ahem, I know she HAS gotten sick, once in my house (I even had to throw out a rug), but that was last New Years when she was still fairly green about alcohol). All her college buddies play beer pong, which she enjoys, but again, she will stop when she knows it's too much. We've always been pretty open about things in our house.</p><p></p><p>difficult child is another story altogether. Although we tried to teach and enforce the same guidelines with her, as you know, you sometimes can't expect the same results with a difficult child. So, we've come to a sort of agreement....if she's at a party and has been drinking, she will either make plans to stay over, call me to get her, or get a sober person to give her a lift. Last night she went out, was supposed to come home, but called me at 11:30 to let me know she'd be staying over. On the one hand, I'm not happy about her drinking, but on the other hand at least she's not getting in a car wasted or with someone who is, Know what I mean?? We continue to talk about alcohol, drugs, unprotected sex, etc., with difficult child in particular. I don't have the same concerns with easy child. She is very driven and has goals. difficult child is still drifting, so we have to be more attentive in this regard, which is fine with me.</p><p></p><p>I grew up on Long Island NY and I can honestly say that I didn't know one person who didn't hit a kegger on the weekends - no matter the weather, no matter the clique...everyone came together if there was a keg or party around. And it started when we were about 15 or so till about 17/18. Most of us were groomed to either go to school or work, so the few who didn't snap to attention to choose one or the other I can realize now were probably difficult child's. </p><p></p><p>My mom would hear my friends and I up in the woods and come get us to hang in my backyard because she said then she could keep an eye on us and make sure we were at least safe. She knew we were drinking (and some smoking pot) but she'd rather have us near her than off on our own. I am not sure how I feel about that now - the laws have changed so much. I would not allow an underage friend of my girls drink alcohol in my house ever, but it's only because I don't want to end up in jail. easy child's old boyfriend once had a beer (he was 20) at her graduation party and he said he felt awkward about it. </p><p></p><p>I don't like the idea of kids getting wasted, but I also think the more taboo you give something, the more enticing it becomes and that's when it becomes more dangerous. But that's just my opinion.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 91358, member: 2211"] It is inevitable, in my opinion, that our kids will experiment with alcohol. Some will figure out their tolerance level by having awful hangovers and others will crave the 'drunk'. Marg's version of teaching about alcohol is pretty much the way we are at our house, perhaps not so young (10, Marg?? lol), but still. Unfortunately, it's been a bit of struggle as my H has his own alcoholism issues, but overall I think it all worked out okay with easy child. She has certain drinks she likes, only drinks quality and doesn't drink till she's sick. Ahem, I know she HAS gotten sick, once in my house (I even had to throw out a rug), but that was last New Years when she was still fairly green about alcohol). All her college buddies play beer pong, which she enjoys, but again, she will stop when she knows it's too much. We've always been pretty open about things in our house. difficult child is another story altogether. Although we tried to teach and enforce the same guidelines with her, as you know, you sometimes can't expect the same results with a difficult child. So, we've come to a sort of agreement....if she's at a party and has been drinking, she will either make plans to stay over, call me to get her, or get a sober person to give her a lift. Last night she went out, was supposed to come home, but called me at 11:30 to let me know she'd be staying over. On the one hand, I'm not happy about her drinking, but on the other hand at least she's not getting in a car wasted or with someone who is, Know what I mean?? We continue to talk about alcohol, drugs, unprotected sex, etc., with difficult child in particular. I don't have the same concerns with easy child. She is very driven and has goals. difficult child is still drifting, so we have to be more attentive in this regard, which is fine with me. I grew up on Long Island NY and I can honestly say that I didn't know one person who didn't hit a kegger on the weekends - no matter the weather, no matter the clique...everyone came together if there was a keg or party around. And it started when we were about 15 or so till about 17/18. Most of us were groomed to either go to school or work, so the few who didn't snap to attention to choose one or the other I can realize now were probably difficult child's. My mom would hear my friends and I up in the woods and come get us to hang in my backyard because she said then she could keep an eye on us and make sure we were at least safe. She knew we were drinking (and some smoking pot) but she'd rather have us near her than off on our own. I am not sure how I feel about that now - the laws have changed so much. I would not allow an underage friend of my girls drink alcohol in my house ever, but it's only because I don't want to end up in jail. easy child's old boyfriend once had a beer (he was 20) at her graduation party and he said he felt awkward about it. I don't like the idea of kids getting wasted, but I also think the more taboo you give something, the more enticing it becomes and that's when it becomes more dangerous. But that's just my opinion. [/QUOTE]
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