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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 603989" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I have borderline traits. I love DBT. Along with the old cognitive therapy, it has almost made me normal...lol. I'm serious though. It takes a lot of work and determination, but you can turn your whole life around, learn to deal with your expected moodswings, and treat people kindly. There is a lot of hope for borderline these days. The hardest part is getting somebody with borderline to agree to treatment...that something is wrong. </p><p></p><p>If your daughter acknowledges that she doesn't like the way her life is heading or her inability to stay in control, DBT is KING. The biggest key as to whether or not a borderline will improve is if she agrees with the diagnosis and works very hard. There are also many good self-help books for borderlines and I've read them all. Just look at Amazon. by the way, borderline and other mental health issues often co-exist. I have a mood disorder and am on medications and they have helped me to the extreme. So she may have something else going on too.</p><p></p><p>One thing about borderlines...they tend to be compulsive liars. I used to make up stories and don't even know why I did it. It puzzled even me. I didn't try to get people in trouble; I tried to make my emptiness inside hidden from others by making up things about myself. When my sister, who I loved very much, called me out on the silly lies, I abruptly stopped and that's when my treatment kicked into full swing. I was able to stop the story telling right away and today I am almost TOO honest...lol. But compulsive lying is a big red flag for borderline. Now if it is VICIOUS lying, the borderline is worse. There is a spectrum. Other traits, which I didn't have but am aware of, are jumping from relationship to relationship, substance abuse, and violence. That is the extreme end of it. I did share a fright of being abandoned/left alone, which is another huge borderline trait. I am better now, but it's still there a little.</p><p></p><p>There is a book for caregivers of borderlines as well. It's called "Walking on Eggshells." I started reading it and feel it is very helpful to Mom. by the way, vent to your heart's content. We all understand <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 603989, member: 1550"] I have borderline traits. I love DBT. Along with the old cognitive therapy, it has almost made me normal...lol. I'm serious though. It takes a lot of work and determination, but you can turn your whole life around, learn to deal with your expected moodswings, and treat people kindly. There is a lot of hope for borderline these days. The hardest part is getting somebody with borderline to agree to treatment...that something is wrong. If your daughter acknowledges that she doesn't like the way her life is heading or her inability to stay in control, DBT is KING. The biggest key as to whether or not a borderline will improve is if she agrees with the diagnosis and works very hard. There are also many good self-help books for borderlines and I've read them all. Just look at Amazon. by the way, borderline and other mental health issues often co-exist. I have a mood disorder and am on medications and they have helped me to the extreme. So she may have something else going on too. One thing about borderlines...they tend to be compulsive liars. I used to make up stories and don't even know why I did it. It puzzled even me. I didn't try to get people in trouble; I tried to make my emptiness inside hidden from others by making up things about myself. When my sister, who I loved very much, called me out on the silly lies, I abruptly stopped and that's when my treatment kicked into full swing. I was able to stop the story telling right away and today I am almost TOO honest...lol. But compulsive lying is a big red flag for borderline. Now if it is VICIOUS lying, the borderline is worse. There is a spectrum. Other traits, which I didn't have but am aware of, are jumping from relationship to relationship, substance abuse, and violence. That is the extreme end of it. I did share a fright of being abandoned/left alone, which is another huge borderline trait. I am better now, but it's still there a little. There is a book for caregivers of borderlines as well. It's called "Walking on Eggshells." I started reading it and feel it is very helpful to Mom. by the way, vent to your heart's content. We all understand :) [/QUOTE]
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