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Teen help, I'm at the end of my rope
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<blockquote data-quote="1 Day At a Time" data-source="post: 304184" data-attributes="member: 3704"><p>Kris,</p><p></p><p>I hear your concern that "somewhere along the line you have failed" as a parent. I have those days as well - as I am sure that most parents do. But I think it's important to remember that you did all of that hard work when your children were younger. Now is the time that they are taking control of their lives and their destinies. This is a time when you really have very little control, and their choices really are not a reflection upon you or your competence as a mother.</p><p></p><p>I am guessing that there are reasons why your 17 y o does not want to go to school. It's not unusual for kids that age to be depressed and not share that information with others, especially their parents. Something may also be going on at school that you are not aware of. Would it be possible to get her to go to see a therapist or counselor? Perhaps the school counselor could refer you to someone in your community. She may be better able to speak to that person and get started in the process of sorting out exactly what is going on with her.</p><p></p><p>Hang in there , Kris. Being the Mom of four kids , I know you know how quickly kids change. I really don't think that this situation is a reflection of you and your skills - but more of what is going on internally with your daughter. I'm hoping that she can get connected with someone and share what is going on with her. Ultimately, she is the one in charge of allowing that to happen.</p><p></p><p>Valerie</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="1 Day At a Time, post: 304184, member: 3704"] Kris, I hear your concern that "somewhere along the line you have failed" as a parent. I have those days as well - as I am sure that most parents do. But I think it's important to remember that you did all of that hard work when your children were younger. Now is the time that they are taking control of their lives and their destinies. This is a time when you really have very little control, and their choices really are not a reflection upon you or your competence as a mother. I am guessing that there are reasons why your 17 y o does not want to go to school. It's not unusual for kids that age to be depressed and not share that information with others, especially their parents. Something may also be going on at school that you are not aware of. Would it be possible to get her to go to see a therapist or counselor? Perhaps the school counselor could refer you to someone in your community. She may be better able to speak to that person and get started in the process of sorting out exactly what is going on with her. Hang in there , Kris. Being the Mom of four kids , I know you know how quickly kids change. I really don't think that this situation is a reflection of you and your skills - but more of what is going on internally with your daughter. I'm hoping that she can get connected with someone and share what is going on with her. Ultimately, she is the one in charge of allowing that to happen. Valerie [/QUOTE]
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