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<blockquote data-quote="zeke11" data-source="post: 304661" data-attributes="member: 7200"><p>Oh, lots of great support. I'm so appreciative. </p><p> </p><p>Valerie, we did try counseling. Went to several sessions - my daughter alone with the therapist, then my husband and I alone, then all of us together. Totally unproductive. My daughter refused to talk and would just sit there silently the entire time. </p><p> </p><p>Last Friday, my husband and I went out in the early afternoon from about 3 till 6. My daughter was planning to go to the homecoming game at her high school. She called me on my cell to ask if it was ok if she had 6 friends meet at our house, they would stay outside on the deck, and then they were going to all walk to the game together.</p><p> </p><p>First of all, I was SO happy she called to ask permission. So I said ok. Well, we came home and there are about 20 kids in our yard, the deck REEKS of beer. I tell them all to leave and I stay at the back door watching. I see them sneaking cans under the jackets, etc. I tell them: there is to be NO drinking on my property, EVER. Some of them apologize. They all leave.</p><p> </p><p>My husband does not say anything, does not even step outside. Nothing. This is SO frustrating. When I talk to him about his lack of involvement, he gets angry at me. Says, "well, I heard you telling them." But I keep saying to him that I think we both need to be involved, maybe the kids would be more intimidated by a man going out there. Come on, they know my husband is inside and is saying NOTHING to them. This angers me so much.</p><p> </p><p>Anyway, speaking to my daughter later of course she lies and says she had no knowledge of any alcohol, she didn't know so many kids were going to show up, blah blah blah.....same old story.</p><p> </p><p>We feel like prisoners here. We would love to take my 13yo son camping or on a weekend trip like we did with the other kids when they were young, but we are unable to leave our home even for three hours. This is a very depressing situation.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="zeke11, post: 304661, member: 7200"] Oh, lots of great support. I'm so appreciative. Valerie, we did try counseling. Went to several sessions - my daughter alone with the therapist, then my husband and I alone, then all of us together. Totally unproductive. My daughter refused to talk and would just sit there silently the entire time. Last Friday, my husband and I went out in the early afternoon from about 3 till 6. My daughter was planning to go to the homecoming game at her high school. She called me on my cell to ask if it was ok if she had 6 friends meet at our house, they would stay outside on the deck, and then they were going to all walk to the game together. First of all, I was SO happy she called to ask permission. So I said ok. Well, we came home and there are about 20 kids in our yard, the deck REEKS of beer. I tell them all to leave and I stay at the back door watching. I see them sneaking cans under the jackets, etc. I tell them: there is to be NO drinking on my property, EVER. Some of them apologize. They all leave. My husband does not say anything, does not even step outside. Nothing. This is SO frustrating. When I talk to him about his lack of involvement, he gets angry at me. Says, "well, I heard you telling them." But I keep saying to him that I think we both need to be involved, maybe the kids would be more intimidated by a man going out there. Come on, they know my husband is inside and is saying NOTHING to them. This angers me so much. Anyway, speaking to my daughter later of course she lies and says she had no knowledge of any alcohol, she didn't know so many kids were going to show up, blah blah blah.....same old story. We feel like prisoners here. We would love to take my 13yo son camping or on a weekend trip like we did with the other kids when they were young, but we are unable to leave our home even for three hours. This is a very depressing situation. [/QUOTE]
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