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<blockquote data-quote="Ropefree" data-source="post: 240625" data-attributes="member: 6271"><p>I found this site at the end of last year when I was dealing with behavior issues with my priorly co-operative son. Part of the problem I was having was the teen girls with the drivers lisences wisking the boys away to undisclosed locations and homes of parents who did not supervise.</p><p></p><p>Since then I did contact other parents in the group of friends and have a network of sorts now. This way for those of us who give a ____ we can set the limits to demonstrate that self control that teens need now, and later, to avoid the casual parenthood situations that pop out of the reckless follies that , you know, can happen.</p><p></p><p>As difficult as this time maybe for you to take in and accept you are now aware of the need to have your son know that you do want him to meet certain goals for his life. How important it is to know the people he ever gets intimate with in his life at anytime, and why.</p><p></p><p>The first arguement I was brought was that I did not trust my son. I was able to share what I feel is my role as his parent in terms of guiding him and being there for him so that he doesn't get himself into a situation with parents, or girls without fully understanding the matters. Such as the fact that most fathers and mothers will not want a boy around who does not follow their rules. He needs to ask. He needs to met them and be comfortable with the family of a girl he is dating.</p><p></p><p>Next he said they are just friends. (we, all the parents, think that this is true) and I pointed out that that type of relationship makes it even easier to establish the habits that create possitive relationships.</p><p></p><p>I also told him that I do want to know the families of the girls he wishes to date. I want them and I to be talking and to have each others numbers. I want this for any cars he rides in as well. That way, I told him, the first contact I have with any of his friends parents will not be under tradgic circumstances.</p><p></p><p>Last year he had a girlfriend who was older and in a differant grade. my son has had the girls after him since elementary school. I did the same things. Met the parents, made certain that they were doing supervised activities.</p><p>when they broke up it was hard on my son. and I had felt that it was not ideal when this girl had taken interest in him at the time. He was happy to be friends but he was not so interested in the relationship. I felt that was about his maturity and it is a hazard really where the girls are pursuing the boys. </p><p></p><p>These kids had very thorough sex ed in this school system. And they had the suragate baby project where they had to carry the object as a baby and follow all the steps involved. That is a very good idea, I think.</p><p>And, we all know it is more than all of these put together.</p><p></p><p>I wish that the youth had a stronger example or presence for understanding how the privacy and seeking contraception and also conseling for unintended pregancy is a personal matter. In some families that choice is not ever discussed accept with disgust and the fact is that is wrong, I think. When a teen is making a choice about an unintended pregnancy the conseling process is the place where one way or another a teen can sort out the matter for herself and set her course.</p><p></p><p>In my mind fertility is not a point of shame. it is a sign of health. And as much as the health factor is there it is only shamefull of the people who continue to push girls when they are young and vunerable to feel that they have to do one thing or another or they are making a bad choice. </p><p></p><p>I recieved alot of advice when I was complaining about how the neglect in my sons friends family was intruding into the mood and happiness in my family. This event in your community of the highschool sweethearts becoming parents is happening in a context of a family that wants this course for their daughter. And, you know, bless those teens for their futures sake. Because sometimes these are the pairs that do bond and endure and that is a joyous thing.</p><p></p><p>I do hope for my son and other teens that they do form close carring enduring and meaningful relationships. The lucky do find each other early in life and build their educations and careers and at differant times in the timeline families of their own with children. </p><p></p><p>Like I said we faced the teens becoming parents at 14 here. Their child is almost three now. it goes by quick.</p><p>but I fully recommend the first time motherhood closer to or after thirty. There is less distraction and the joy of infants and toddlers and younge children is really ideally suited to the calm devotion of a time when their needs are truly first.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ropefree, post: 240625, member: 6271"] I found this site at the end of last year when I was dealing with behavior issues with my priorly co-operative son. Part of the problem I was having was the teen girls with the drivers lisences wisking the boys away to undisclosed locations and homes of parents who did not supervise. Since then I did contact other parents in the group of friends and have a network of sorts now. This way for those of us who give a ____ we can set the limits to demonstrate that self control that teens need now, and later, to avoid the casual parenthood situations that pop out of the reckless follies that , you know, can happen. As difficult as this time maybe for you to take in and accept you are now aware of the need to have your son know that you do want him to meet certain goals for his life. How important it is to know the people he ever gets intimate with in his life at anytime, and why. The first arguement I was brought was that I did not trust my son. I was able to share what I feel is my role as his parent in terms of guiding him and being there for him so that he doesn't get himself into a situation with parents, or girls without fully understanding the matters. Such as the fact that most fathers and mothers will not want a boy around who does not follow their rules. He needs to ask. He needs to met them and be comfortable with the family of a girl he is dating. Next he said they are just friends. (we, all the parents, think that this is true) and I pointed out that that type of relationship makes it even easier to establish the habits that create possitive relationships. I also told him that I do want to know the families of the girls he wishes to date. I want them and I to be talking and to have each others numbers. I want this for any cars he rides in as well. That way, I told him, the first contact I have with any of his friends parents will not be under tradgic circumstances. Last year he had a girlfriend who was older and in a differant grade. my son has had the girls after him since elementary school. I did the same things. Met the parents, made certain that they were doing supervised activities. when they broke up it was hard on my son. and I had felt that it was not ideal when this girl had taken interest in him at the time. He was happy to be friends but he was not so interested in the relationship. I felt that was about his maturity and it is a hazard really where the girls are pursuing the boys. These kids had very thorough sex ed in this school system. And they had the suragate baby project where they had to carry the object as a baby and follow all the steps involved. That is a very good idea, I think. And, we all know it is more than all of these put together. I wish that the youth had a stronger example or presence for understanding how the privacy and seeking contraception and also conseling for unintended pregancy is a personal matter. In some families that choice is not ever discussed accept with disgust and the fact is that is wrong, I think. When a teen is making a choice about an unintended pregnancy the conseling process is the place where one way or another a teen can sort out the matter for herself and set her course. In my mind fertility is not a point of shame. it is a sign of health. And as much as the health factor is there it is only shamefull of the people who continue to push girls when they are young and vunerable to feel that they have to do one thing or another or they are making a bad choice. I recieved alot of advice when I was complaining about how the neglect in my sons friends family was intruding into the mood and happiness in my family. This event in your community of the highschool sweethearts becoming parents is happening in a context of a family that wants this course for their daughter. And, you know, bless those teens for their futures sake. Because sometimes these are the pairs that do bond and endure and that is a joyous thing. I do hope for my son and other teens that they do form close carring enduring and meaningful relationships. The lucky do find each other early in life and build their educations and careers and at differant times in the timeline families of their own with children. Like I said we faced the teens becoming parents at 14 here. Their child is almost three now. it goes by quick. but I fully recommend the first time motherhood closer to or after thirty. There is less distraction and the joy of infants and toddlers and younge children is really ideally suited to the calm devotion of a time when their needs are truly first. [/QUOTE]
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