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Teen ran away (again) ... should I call police?
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 286940" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>This sort of took me back into time when my daughter used to sneak out of her room at night, but it never occurred to me NOT to call the police. I wasn't even worried about her record, I was worried about her safety out at night with undesirable people. Trust me, stepdaughter's deeply involved with drugs and was probably involved when you got her. And I don't think taking her to a bank or talking about cash will help because drug users are normally also drug suppliers. Goes hand-in-hand. She and whatever loser boyfriend she hooks up with have plenty of ways to make money, including stealing and selling things hot and dealing drugs. </p><p></p><p>Has she been sexually abused by this boyfriend? If so, did she ever get the proper intervention and treatment for sexually abused kids? If he beat her, I'd say he's at high risk for having sexually abused her too. Boyfriends and steps are the #1 offenders. And sexual abuse, drug use, running away, finding bad boyfriends etc. are so intertwined that it's hard to say where one starts and the other ends. When a child is abused, they usually end up doing drugs as teenagers without intensive intervention by an abuse conuselor. And the drugs lead to bad behavior, mouthing off, running away, failing in school, not caring about anything, drug-induced symptoms of mental illness, and scary boyfriends that they will try to see even knowing they are no good for them.</p><p></p><p>At this point, I agree that finding a good program away from home may be good for her. I wouldn't limit it to chemical dependency, although maybe in those programs, since so many drug-using kids were abused, the program actually combines everything and wraps it into one. Not all RTCs are good or even desirable. Check them out. </p><p></p><p>As a matter of plain compassion, I would never send her back to mom and the boyfriend or, if he's gone, her other string of boyfriends. I would rather her turn her into the police than that. But it doesn't sound like she can live with you two either. </p><p></p><p>I wish you good luck with this. Keep us posted.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 286940, member: 1550"] This sort of took me back into time when my daughter used to sneak out of her room at night, but it never occurred to me NOT to call the police. I wasn't even worried about her record, I was worried about her safety out at night with undesirable people. Trust me, stepdaughter's deeply involved with drugs and was probably involved when you got her. And I don't think taking her to a bank or talking about cash will help because drug users are normally also drug suppliers. Goes hand-in-hand. She and whatever loser boyfriend she hooks up with have plenty of ways to make money, including stealing and selling things hot and dealing drugs. Has she been sexually abused by this boyfriend? If so, did she ever get the proper intervention and treatment for sexually abused kids? If he beat her, I'd say he's at high risk for having sexually abused her too. Boyfriends and steps are the #1 offenders. And sexual abuse, drug use, running away, finding bad boyfriends etc. are so intertwined that it's hard to say where one starts and the other ends. When a child is abused, they usually end up doing drugs as teenagers without intensive intervention by an abuse conuselor. And the drugs lead to bad behavior, mouthing off, running away, failing in school, not caring about anything, drug-induced symptoms of mental illness, and scary boyfriends that they will try to see even knowing they are no good for them. At this point, I agree that finding a good program away from home may be good for her. I wouldn't limit it to chemical dependency, although maybe in those programs, since so many drug-using kids were abused, the program actually combines everything and wraps it into one. Not all RTCs are good or even desirable. Check them out. As a matter of plain compassion, I would never send her back to mom and the boyfriend or, if he's gone, her other string of boyfriends. I would rather her turn her into the police than that. But it doesn't sound like she can live with you two either. I wish you good luck with this. Keep us posted. [/QUOTE]
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