happymomof2
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difficult child has been doing really well with grades and behavior at school. Last night he wanted to go to this dodge ball event at the school so I said okay. Well difficult child's girlfriend got overly friendly with another guy and difficult child almost lost it.
It makes me upset with his girlfriend, she seems like a sweet girl and is at our house a lot. Anyway one of the aides in my son's class is a friend of mine and she called to let me know that difficult child never even went in to the event. (nice to have an informant on the inside!)
When I went to pick him up he was still angry. I dropped the other kids off and he and I talked. I acknowledged his feelings, even though they are teens they still have those. I also told him if he was going to be upset with anyone he should be upset with girlfriend. She knew he did not like this guy. I told him there are girls out there that thrive off making there boyfriend's jealous. "Mom... she's not like that".
Told difficult child that I understood why he was so upset but fighting is not how things are handled in the grown up world. (No he did not get into a fight thank God he just talked a lot of smack about it) He said he had a horrible day. I told him he wasn't the only one and explained to him how may day went. (I really did have a crappy day) Also told him just because he is upset the world will not end, but there are still consequences to behavior regardless of the reason for it. He wants more freedom and he wants me to trust him - well he didn't make any headway last night! It will be a while before I allow him to go by himself to a school function.
Anyone else out there dealing with teenage love and all the drama it brings? Any suggestions?
Thanks
It makes me upset with his girlfriend, she seems like a sweet girl and is at our house a lot. Anyway one of the aides in my son's class is a friend of mine and she called to let me know that difficult child never even went in to the event. (nice to have an informant on the inside!)
When I went to pick him up he was still angry. I dropped the other kids off and he and I talked. I acknowledged his feelings, even though they are teens they still have those. I also told him if he was going to be upset with anyone he should be upset with girlfriend. She knew he did not like this guy. I told him there are girls out there that thrive off making there boyfriend's jealous. "Mom... she's not like that".
Told difficult child that I understood why he was so upset but fighting is not how things are handled in the grown up world. (No he did not get into a fight thank God he just talked a lot of smack about it) He said he had a horrible day. I told him he wasn't the only one and explained to him how may day went. (I really did have a crappy day) Also told him just because he is upset the world will not end, but there are still consequences to behavior regardless of the reason for it. He wants more freedom and he wants me to trust him - well he didn't make any headway last night! It will be a while before I allow him to go by himself to a school function.
Anyone else out there dealing with teenage love and all the drama it brings? Any suggestions?
Thanks