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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 459534" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>The thought that keeps occurring to me is how are kids supposed to learn how to behave at weddings, including and maybe <em>especially</em> their own, if they are never allowed to go to them. I also wonder what kids think happens at weddings? Are they like Wiz who believed for years that New Years Eve parties were for parents to all get together and figure out new ways to torture their kids in the upcoming year? Okay, maybe most kids wouldn't think that, but what do kids think happens at weddings and how do they think people are supposed to act at them?</p><p></p><p>I have to say taht I DO understand why my aunt's husband's did not invite my cousins after the first of them married. the first one that married after my aunt married into the family had my aunt in the wedding party. She was nursing my 5 or 6 mo old cousin - and during the ceremony my aunt went and first tried to stand up at the front of the church and nurse the child!! She had a blanket over her, but it HAD to be terribly obvious. After a few minutes the bride growled at her brother and he made his wife (my aunt) go sit in the pews - but she only went to the front row and made people move over. </p><p></p><p>NO WAY would the other family members have kids at a service for ANYTHING she was involved with for about five years after that. My aunt was hugely insulted that her kids were not invited and to this day thinks it was perfectly reasonable to stand there with the wedding party while nursing a child. </p><p></p><p>Sorry, but that is just beyond the boundaries of even rude behavior. There were many generations at the wedding and the men were ALL incredibly embarrassed by it - and the talk of the reception was NOT about the happy couple, the ceremony, or the reception or even the cake - it was about that woman who was so badly behaved. My dad NEVER comments on things his sibs do that are strange but when he heard about htat he called his little sis and had a few words with her. He really was as much father as brother and he was really upset that she did that.</p><p></p><p>In that family, I totally understand the no kids rule. Added to that, my aunt felt that when God wanted her kids to behave a certain way in church then he would make them behave that way. So if they screamed (she refused to go to the cry room with them) or ran up and down the aisle during the processional or any other time, or asked someone why they were fat or ugly or had an ugly dress, she just let them. mostly her first - he can still do no wrong (had a girlfriend break up with him last month because aunt kept telling her how lucky she was to be dating him). Her daughter, who is younger, didn't act that way past about age two because my aunt came down on her like a ton of bricks for bad manners even if her bro was doing the same thing. </p><p></p><p>otherwise, how are kids to learn how to act if they are never in a situation? Until the situation with my aunt I had never even heard of an adults only wedding. My foks sometimes went to wedding with-o us, but mostly so they could get a date night!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 459534, member: 1233"] The thought that keeps occurring to me is how are kids supposed to learn how to behave at weddings, including and maybe [I]especially[/I] their own, if they are never allowed to go to them. I also wonder what kids think happens at weddings? Are they like Wiz who believed for years that New Years Eve parties were for parents to all get together and figure out new ways to torture their kids in the upcoming year? Okay, maybe most kids wouldn't think that, but what do kids think happens at weddings and how do they think people are supposed to act at them? I have to say taht I DO understand why my aunt's husband's did not invite my cousins after the first of them married. the first one that married after my aunt married into the family had my aunt in the wedding party. She was nursing my 5 or 6 mo old cousin - and during the ceremony my aunt went and first tried to stand up at the front of the church and nurse the child!! She had a blanket over her, but it HAD to be terribly obvious. After a few minutes the bride growled at her brother and he made his wife (my aunt) go sit in the pews - but she only went to the front row and made people move over. NO WAY would the other family members have kids at a service for ANYTHING she was involved with for about five years after that. My aunt was hugely insulted that her kids were not invited and to this day thinks it was perfectly reasonable to stand there with the wedding party while nursing a child. Sorry, but that is just beyond the boundaries of even rude behavior. There were many generations at the wedding and the men were ALL incredibly embarrassed by it - and the talk of the reception was NOT about the happy couple, the ceremony, or the reception or even the cake - it was about that woman who was so badly behaved. My dad NEVER comments on things his sibs do that are strange but when he heard about htat he called his little sis and had a few words with her. He really was as much father as brother and he was really upset that she did that. In that family, I totally understand the no kids rule. Added to that, my aunt felt that when God wanted her kids to behave a certain way in church then he would make them behave that way. So if they screamed (she refused to go to the cry room with them) or ran up and down the aisle during the processional or any other time, or asked someone why they were fat or ugly or had an ugly dress, she just let them. mostly her first - he can still do no wrong (had a girlfriend break up with him last month because aunt kept telling her how lucky she was to be dating him). Her daughter, who is younger, didn't act that way past about age two because my aunt came down on her like a ton of bricks for bad manners even if her bro was doing the same thing. otherwise, how are kids to learn how to act if they are never in a situation? Until the situation with my aunt I had never even heard of an adults only wedding. My foks sometimes went to wedding with-o us, but mostly so they could get a date night! [/QUOTE]
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