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<blockquote data-quote="Josie" data-source="post: 390427" data-attributes="member: 1792"><p>This whole scene could have happened in my house back in the difficult child days.</p><p></p><p>I learned to not make the punishment so long because 1) it gave me nothing to work with the next few days since there was nothing left to take away and 2) it just gave her something to be angry about for days which led to more behaviours that needed a consequence.</p><p></p><p>Not to say that it isn't an appropriate consequence for a typical kid, but it didn't help us to impose such a long consequence. Not only did it make everything worse in the short run, but it didn't help in the long run. She would have done the same thing the next time anyway.</p><p></p><p>Probably you have heard the recommendation to read "The Explosive Child". The book helped me to realize that not every battle was worth fighting, but my child was never reasonable enough to be able to work on Basket B.</p><p></p><p>My daughter took Lexapro which did seem to help at first. Its effects wore off and we had to keep increasing it. What finally worked for her is that we put her on the girlfriend/CF diet and she is now fine, no medications, no therapist. Now, I could give her a week long consequence and she would be unhappy but accept it. Better yet, I can tell her there will be a consequence and she will mostly comply instead of going into battle mode.</p><p></p><p>Anyway, if you can't get relief from medications, you might consider a diet change.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Josie, post: 390427, member: 1792"] This whole scene could have happened in my house back in the difficult child days. I learned to not make the punishment so long because 1) it gave me nothing to work with the next few days since there was nothing left to take away and 2) it just gave her something to be angry about for days which led to more behaviours that needed a consequence. Not to say that it isn't an appropriate consequence for a typical kid, but it didn't help us to impose such a long consequence. Not only did it make everything worse in the short run, but it didn't help in the long run. She would have done the same thing the next time anyway. Probably you have heard the recommendation to read "The Explosive Child". The book helped me to realize that not every battle was worth fighting, but my child was never reasonable enough to be able to work on Basket B. My daughter took Lexapro which did seem to help at first. Its effects wore off and we had to keep increasing it. What finally worked for her is that we put her on the girlfriend/CF diet and she is now fine, no medications, no therapist. Now, I could give her a week long consequence and she would be unhappy but accept it. Better yet, I can tell her there will be a consequence and she will mostly comply instead of going into battle mode. Anyway, if you can't get relief from medications, you might consider a diet change. [/QUOTE]
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