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<blockquote data-quote="SearchingForRainbows" data-source="post: 390435" data-attributes="member: 3388"><p>Pam,</p><p></p><p>I'm so sorry you had such a miserable evening!!! I can totally relate to what you went through. When I read about your night, difficult child 1 immediately popped into my mind... Like your difficult child, difficult child 1 would "tantrum" for hours on end if he couldn't have his way. I remember feeling like I was living in absolute HE77...</p><p></p><p>What helped us, might not help you, so take what you can from what I'm about to say and discard the rest. Anyway, the thing that worked the best for us was to totally ignore difficult child 1 while he was in the middle of one of his huge rages. As long as he wasn't in physical danger or no one else was in physical danger, ignoring him made his tantrums shorter. </p><p></p><p>In the beginning, the length of his tantrums increased. I think he was testing us, to see how long it would take before we responded. These were the worst times ever!!! Gradually, as he began to see that we refused to talk to him when he was acting irrationally, the length of his tantrums grew shorter. Too bad they never completely stopped...<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite4" alt=":mad:" title="Mad :mad:" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":mad:" /></p><p></p><p>Another thing that really helped us was a bit of wisdom from one of his tdocs. He told us that difficult child 1 will only hear a fraction of what we say to him when he is just a step away from raging. He said to keep our sentences short and simple. NEVER let difficult child 1 engage us in an argument. We needed to let difficult child 1 know that we would only talk to him when he was calm, period. No exceptions.</p><p></p><p>I think the most important piece of all of this is to make sure your difficult child is on the appropriate medications and doses. Until difficult child 1 was properly medicated, no amount of wisdom from his psychiatrist, therapist, etc... was going to help us get through to him. </p><p></p><p>I really wish I knew then what I know now!!! I could have spared myself so much pain, anger, frustration, sadness, etc... I also wish I had found this site before difficult child 1 entered high school. </p><p></p><p>Anyway, I hope today is a much better day for you... Hugs... SFR</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SearchingForRainbows, post: 390435, member: 3388"] Pam, I'm so sorry you had such a miserable evening!!! I can totally relate to what you went through. When I read about your night, difficult child 1 immediately popped into my mind... Like your difficult child, difficult child 1 would "tantrum" for hours on end if he couldn't have his way. I remember feeling like I was living in absolute HE77... What helped us, might not help you, so take what you can from what I'm about to say and discard the rest. Anyway, the thing that worked the best for us was to totally ignore difficult child 1 while he was in the middle of one of his huge rages. As long as he wasn't in physical danger or no one else was in physical danger, ignoring him made his tantrums shorter. In the beginning, the length of his tantrums increased. I think he was testing us, to see how long it would take before we responded. These were the worst times ever!!! Gradually, as he began to see that we refused to talk to him when he was acting irrationally, the length of his tantrums grew shorter. Too bad they never completely stopped...:angry: Another thing that really helped us was a bit of wisdom from one of his tdocs. He told us that difficult child 1 will only hear a fraction of what we say to him when he is just a step away from raging. He said to keep our sentences short and simple. NEVER let difficult child 1 engage us in an argument. We needed to let difficult child 1 know that we would only talk to him when he was calm, period. No exceptions. I think the most important piece of all of this is to make sure your difficult child is on the appropriate medications and doses. Until difficult child 1 was properly medicated, no amount of wisdom from his psychiatrist, therapist, etc... was going to help us get through to him. I really wish I knew then what I know now!!! I could have spared myself so much pain, anger, frustration, sadness, etc... I also wish I had found this site before difficult child 1 entered high school. Anyway, I hope today is a much better day for you... Hugs... SFR [/QUOTE]
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