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<blockquote data-quote="SRL" data-source="post: 144270" data-attributes="member: 701"><p>Hi CLB4. You're certainly welcome to post here, and I appreciate the fact that you've taken the time to dig further.</p><p> </p><p>So this kiddo is in kindergarten and has been assessed only by the school district, qualifies for an EBD label, and is receiving district services but mom has rejected IEP/suggested placement so he's in the regular classroom?</p><p> </p><p>I am sorry to say that I heard my good friend who is a junior high school teacher complain about the very same situation recently. It's a toughie because while there are certainly parents out there who will bend over backwards at helping their kids, there are others who aren't there yet, others who are just as inflexible--or more so--than their children, and parents at all points in between.</p><p> </p><p>One thing that can be helpful when the parents and school district don't agree is to bring in an outside consultant. I know you said that he didn't qualify for an outside agency but our school district often brings in someone (at their expense) when they're at a standoff with a parents. I was in situation with my difficult child when the school district wasn't trusting my assessment and handling of him at one point and I wasn't trusting their handling it. They brought in an Autism consultant to give an independent look at both sides as well as reassess him and it was very helpful all the way around. I know it's costly up front but actually it was a HUGE cost savings compared to what would have been racked up through the years had my difficult child continued where he was then. The consultant spent time in school but also spent time here in our home and with difficult child and myself so I felt more comfortable with that.</p><p> </p><p>Some parents also will be more inclined to listen to an outsider's medical opinion that their child has a particular disorder, as opposed to an educational label given by the district.</p><p> </p><p>Since you've been reading here, you'll already have discovered that we highly recommend Ross Greene's book The Explosive Child. There is a version for professional settings called "Treating The Explosive Child..". I haven't seen this version but I've heard from several parents here that it's more detailed and helpful.</p><p> </p><p><a href="http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_ss_gw/105-6128309-5109203?url=search-alias&#37;3Daps&field-keywords=the+explosive+child" target="_blank">http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_ss_gw/105-6128309-5109203?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=the+explosive+child</a></p><p> </p><p>While I sincerely appreciate Barbie's compassionate suggestion, I'd highly advise against meeting outside of school with a mother who is screaming at you. For your own safety, keep it at school, and if possible, in public. You will also want to talk with the Special Education director about how to keep the child safe and minimize liability if the child is running out of the school. </p><p> </p><p>You are right in that it is very heartbreaking to get a contact from school. Many parents are doing everything they can but you're hands are somewhat tied if the parent is fighting your attempts to help the student.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SRL, post: 144270, member: 701"] Hi CLB4. You're certainly welcome to post here, and I appreciate the fact that you've taken the time to dig further. So this kiddo is in kindergarten and has been assessed only by the school district, qualifies for an EBD label, and is receiving district services but mom has rejected IEP/suggested placement so he's in the regular classroom? I am sorry to say that I heard my good friend who is a junior high school teacher complain about the very same situation recently. It's a toughie because while there are certainly parents out there who will bend over backwards at helping their kids, there are others who aren't there yet, others who are just as inflexible--or more so--than their children, and parents at all points in between. One thing that can be helpful when the parents and school district don't agree is to bring in an outside consultant. I know you said that he didn't qualify for an outside agency but our school district often brings in someone (at their expense) when they're at a standoff with a parents. I was in situation with my difficult child when the school district wasn't trusting my assessment and handling of him at one point and I wasn't trusting their handling it. They brought in an Autism consultant to give an independent look at both sides as well as reassess him and it was very helpful all the way around. I know it's costly up front but actually it was a HUGE cost savings compared to what would have been racked up through the years had my difficult child continued where he was then. The consultant spent time in school but also spent time here in our home and with difficult child and myself so I felt more comfortable with that. Some parents also will be more inclined to listen to an outsider's medical opinion that their child has a particular disorder, as opposed to an educational label given by the district. Since you've been reading here, you'll already have discovered that we highly recommend Ross Greene's book The Explosive Child. There is a version for professional settings called "Treating The Explosive Child..". I haven't seen this version but I've heard from several parents here that it's more detailed and helpful. [URL="http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_ss_gw/105-6128309-5109203?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=the+explosive+child"]http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_ss_gw/105-6128309-5109203?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=the+explosive+child[/URL] While I sincerely appreciate Barbie's compassionate suggestion, I'd highly advise against meeting outside of school with a mother who is screaming at you. For your own safety, keep it at school, and if possible, in public. You will also want to talk with the Special Education director about how to keep the child safe and minimize liability if the child is running out of the school. You are right in that it is very heartbreaking to get a contact from school. Many parents are doing everything they can but you're hands are somewhat tied if the parent is fighting your attempts to help the student. [/QUOTE]
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