Hello--I am so glad to have found this online support group. I, too, am an exhausted parent. I was raised in an abusive household and now find myself raising a VERY difficult child. My daughter has "severe" ADHD and ODD. Her typical daily behaviors consist of doing whatever floats into her head, without a moment's consideration of consequence. No form of discipline is effective in shaping her behavior. Additionally, she is spoiled rotten and literally expects to be given something everytime we are anywhere that there is SOMETHING to be bought. (We don't indulge her, it's just AGGRAVATING and gets me VERY upset when she does this). Almost everyday of our life with her is a struggle. From sun-up to sun-down. When she gets out of bed in the morning, she engages in BIZARRE behaviors. She makes animal noises and once told my husband that she didn't "need to get dressed, because (she) is part wolf." And MEANT IT. At this point, there is little that I could walk catch my daughter doing that would truly surprise me. She does things "just to see what will happen." She once killed a friend's guinea pig. She'd spent the night at my friend's house...was told not to get up until everyone else was up...did it anyway...got the pig...squeezed it TO DEATH. To top it all off, had no idea what she'd done. Zero connection. I have to pray against the fear that she will accidentally kill her younger brother one day. She hurts him all of the time, for example, slaps him repeatedly on the back, then, when he starts crying, I hear her suggestively tell him, "it was an accident...you fell down, right?" There's going to come a day when I have to lock my door and my son's door at night. Or maybe have my son sleep in our room for safety. My daughter also makes up lies--BIG LIES--just to get what she wants. I am a nurse, my husband is a cop. That child could go to school, tell a huge lie, and suddenly, CYFD will be knocking down our door. We could both lose our jobs and have a VERY DIFFICULT time getting reinstated, if we ever would! What do you do about THAT? How do you prevent THAT when you have a kid that literally DOES NOT CARE? Yes, she has therapist. One that used to be good but now seems to be detaching. We're looking for another one. She has a psychiatric doctor. Kind of passive, but smart. Anyway, thanks for being here. You can't imagine how much it means to me to be able to reach out to other people who know what I am going through.