zoo_keeper
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Since I found this site I have been reading almost non-stop. It truly does seem like a wonderful place to land for a 'battle weary parent'. I tried to make a signature so hopefully it shows up. I really do feel like a zookeeper and don't know what I would do without husband. We were both divorced with kids when we met (me: 4 sons, him: 1 daughter) and our daughter is nine months old. The main 'difficult child' of the house is my 12yo son who has had a diagnosis of bi-polar for the past two years. husband has been incredibly supportive through everything that we have went through with him. At times he is violent and angry but at others he's a sweet, cooperative kid. He has had four hospitalizations, two in the last 6 months. Things have went downhill with him since the birth of our daughter.
This past month we had to call 911 and have him transported to the ER because he was raging and he locked himself in the van before I could get the baby out of her car seat. husband had to break out one of the windows. She was not hurt and he none of his anger was directed at her but there is no describing how much that incident shook me. I blame myself because I was careless and should have had the keys on my person at all times and spare sets (in my purse in the van). He never went to that level before and he was discharged from the psychiatric hospital after two weeks. I tried to refuse taking him home until he was 100% stabilized but CPS threatned me with child abandonment and out of home placement for the rest of the kids. They said he was well enough to come home. He has been better and does feel ashamed, but we are all still on edge. They did agree to fund an in home therapist (which we had been fighting his caseworker for before this) twice a week and he also goes to a three hour long day program five days a week.
husband has excepted a very good job out of state and we will be moving at the end of july. We have been in the same county all his life and am extremely anxious about having to start at square one. Has anyone had experience moving with a difficult child that is in need of these types of services? I am clueless to everything I should be doing to make the transition smooth. He likes the therapist that we're working with now and we are happy with the psychiatrist. Both are unfamiliar of other professionals within the state we are moving (colorado). The move is unavoidable. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Sorry for this being so long.
This past month we had to call 911 and have him transported to the ER because he was raging and he locked himself in the van before I could get the baby out of her car seat. husband had to break out one of the windows. She was not hurt and he none of his anger was directed at her but there is no describing how much that incident shook me. I blame myself because I was careless and should have had the keys on my person at all times and spare sets (in my purse in the van). He never went to that level before and he was discharged from the psychiatric hospital after two weeks. I tried to refuse taking him home until he was 100% stabilized but CPS threatned me with child abandonment and out of home placement for the rest of the kids. They said he was well enough to come home. He has been better and does feel ashamed, but we are all still on edge. They did agree to fund an in home therapist (which we had been fighting his caseworker for before this) twice a week and he also goes to a three hour long day program five days a week.
husband has excepted a very good job out of state and we will be moving at the end of july. We have been in the same county all his life and am extremely anxious about having to start at square one. Has anyone had experience moving with a difficult child that is in need of these types of services? I am clueless to everything I should be doing to make the transition smooth. He likes the therapist that we're working with now and we are happy with the psychiatrist. Both are unfamiliar of other professionals within the state we are moving (colorado). The move is unavoidable. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Sorry for this being so long.