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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 464602" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>Oh thanks so much everyone...fortunately I have worked in sp. ed for 20 blah some years (dating myself) and I am super comfortable with the laws. We have dealt with the 10 times suspension issue in past settings and I was the one that demanded a manifestation determination hearing. Sad for them that I have three doctor that testified ALL of the behaviors are a result of brain injury and autism. Everyone agreed. So in his IEP I have a statement that (not exact words here) says Due to difficult child's brain injury and autism he is not able to follow school and district behavioral policies as written. All discipline actions will include the special education team. That has been in his IEP for years. The sp. ed team, including the district team that has been brought in to assist the school team with behaviors and including our home Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) psychologist and Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) team and myself were part of a complete re-evaluation including the FBA last year=April...it was actually a year early but everyone agreed it was necessary. Having done these many years myself, I have to say it was an excellent report and included all of the private evaluations/opinions I wanted. A really great behavior plan has been started (had a good one before but he changed and we always have to monitor and adjust right?) and they even carried it through summerschool which is totally different than reg. year. It is going well. My experience is that once documentation leaves the Special Education. team and goes to the principal then he feels he needs to add something, he simply doesn't understand that these behaviors are status quo for my kiddo, not a day of disrespect that needs to be punished. I feel like his choice to do this says that it doesn't matter what all of the professionals on the team say, he is gonna look like he is in control of it. But it really makes everything spin out of control .</p><p></p><p> difficult child hates being autistic and brain injured. Asks the neuro if he has to die to get rid of all of this? Asks if she can please put his brain back in so it wont make so many mistakes. He told a child this year he was autistic and going to commit suicide because he can't stand worrying about being in trouble all of the time. It is so sad and the team has been trying to make sure he does things he CAN do so he will feel success. He has a job in the cafeteria every morning and is doing so well there They love him. No one ever says that! It is just that even with the best program ever for him...(the setting is the best- we have tried everything and he needs some general peers or things get much worse as he copies all bad behaviors around him). I actually sold my home and moved into this setting 5 years ago because no school setting was working where we were.</p><p> I have used advocates, haven't needed them to actually come recently, but I did tell them in my tactfully worded email today that I will be including them now because we need to solve this one issue. It does feel at times administration just wants to document that things are so bad he should be in a special needs only setting. It would make their life easier. I am docummenting everything they say to me including phone calls because after this incident I specifically ased if all was okay and the teacher said yes (and she meant it...just principal disagreed)...she said the behavior plan worked and he turned it around and did well the rest of the day. NO ONE on the Special Education. team feels that he needs a suspension or different setting, and that is the frustration. That an administrator can legally (up to the ten times as was stated) interfere with the IEP team. We meet as a whole group (I am talking 8-12 people each time) every 3-4 weeks to review data and tweek things. I share dr. info with them and their info with docs. I love doing this for him but when things like this happen it feels like, OMGosh, I am banging my head against the wall. I know I'm not but I am by nature not confrontive, so this has been ten years of learning to be much more assertive. </p><p></p><p>My dr. appointment went well...blood pressure was high, go figure, but by the end of the appointment It was normal again. STRESS?????? </p><p>i love that you guys get it....I am so grateful. by the way, I agree the serenity prayer does help..that is not lame at all...and I do deep breathing too. I walk/bike or swim daily. Still fat but losing weight, smile. Mostly it helps with the stress! </p><p></p><p>ta for now, Dee</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 464602, member: 12886"] Oh thanks so much everyone...fortunately I have worked in sp. ed for 20 blah some years (dating myself) and I am super comfortable with the laws. We have dealt with the 10 times suspension issue in past settings and I was the one that demanded a manifestation determination hearing. Sad for them that I have three doctor that testified ALL of the behaviors are a result of brain injury and autism. Everyone agreed. So in his IEP I have a statement that (not exact words here) says Due to difficult child's brain injury and autism he is not able to follow school and district behavioral policies as written. All discipline actions will include the special education team. That has been in his IEP for years. The sp. ed team, including the district team that has been brought in to assist the school team with behaviors and including our home Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) psychologist and Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) team and myself were part of a complete re-evaluation including the FBA last year=April...it was actually a year early but everyone agreed it was necessary. Having done these many years myself, I have to say it was an excellent report and included all of the private evaluations/opinions I wanted. A really great behavior plan has been started (had a good one before but he changed and we always have to monitor and adjust right?) and they even carried it through summerschool which is totally different than reg. year. It is going well. My experience is that once documentation leaves the Special Education. team and goes to the principal then he feels he needs to add something, he simply doesn't understand that these behaviors are status quo for my kiddo, not a day of disrespect that needs to be punished. I feel like his choice to do this says that it doesn't matter what all of the professionals on the team say, he is gonna look like he is in control of it. But it really makes everything spin out of control . difficult child hates being autistic and brain injured. Asks the neuro if he has to die to get rid of all of this? Asks if she can please put his brain back in so it wont make so many mistakes. He told a child this year he was autistic and going to commit suicide because he can't stand worrying about being in trouble all of the time. It is so sad and the team has been trying to make sure he does things he CAN do so he will feel success. He has a job in the cafeteria every morning and is doing so well there They love him. No one ever says that! It is just that even with the best program ever for him...(the setting is the best- we have tried everything and he needs some general peers or things get much worse as he copies all bad behaviors around him). I actually sold my home and moved into this setting 5 years ago because no school setting was working where we were. I have used advocates, haven't needed them to actually come recently, but I did tell them in my tactfully worded email today that I will be including them now because we need to solve this one issue. It does feel at times administration just wants to document that things are so bad he should be in a special needs only setting. It would make their life easier. I am docummenting everything they say to me including phone calls because after this incident I specifically ased if all was okay and the teacher said yes (and she meant it...just principal disagreed)...she said the behavior plan worked and he turned it around and did well the rest of the day. NO ONE on the Special Education. team feels that he needs a suspension or different setting, and that is the frustration. That an administrator can legally (up to the ten times as was stated) interfere with the IEP team. We meet as a whole group (I am talking 8-12 people each time) every 3-4 weeks to review data and tweek things. I share dr. info with them and their info with docs. I love doing this for him but when things like this happen it feels like, OMGosh, I am banging my head against the wall. I know I'm not but I am by nature not confrontive, so this has been ten years of learning to be much more assertive. My dr. appointment went well...blood pressure was high, go figure, but by the end of the appointment It was normal again. STRESS?????? i love that you guys get it....I am so grateful. by the way, I agree the serenity prayer does help..that is not lame at all...and I do deep breathing too. I walk/bike or swim daily. Still fat but losing weight, smile. Mostly it helps with the stress! ta for now, Dee [/QUOTE]
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