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<blockquote data-quote="nlj" data-source="post: 632154" data-attributes="member: 17650"><p>So good that you and SO are of one mind. It's so helpful to have someone to share your decisions with who will reinforce the conclusions that you have reached and help you believe that they are the right decisions. </p><p></p><p>So good that you ended your call with your son by telling each other that you loved each other and without any anger or abuse or pushing.</p><p></p><p>These are both strong, positive things that have happened today.</p><p></p><p>I drove to the forest to see my son this morning. He seemed well. He'd made an effort to wash in the river I think before I got there. His fingernails were filthy and broken though. That was a bit upsetting, but I didn't draw attention to it. We hung out in his treehouse and he talked about some childhood memories. He had a bag of filthy clothes that he wanted me to take and wash and bring back. I asked him how the others managed to wash their clothes. He said they used bicarbonate of soda and river water. I said that sounded interesting and that he should try that. I left the bag of washing with him. I felt a bit bad doing that, but if he wants this life then he doesn't really need my washing machine.</p><p></p><p>Your son has chosen his life, he doesn't really need your spare bed. They can manage, and if they stop wanting to manage like that then they can work to find their way back to a more conformist life.</p><p></p><p>We also left saying we loved each other.</p><p></p><p>So I have four positive things to think about today:</p><p></p><p>You saying 'no' to the bed and knowing you did the right thing.</p><p>Me saying 'no' to the washing and knowing I did the right thing.</p><p>You and your son leaving each other on a positive note.</p><p>Me and my son leaving each other on a positive note.</p><p></p><p>A good day!</p><p>A reason to have a good night's sleep tonight.</p><p>I'm sure your son is ok. </p><p>I hope you have a good night's sleep too.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="nlj, post: 632154, member: 17650"] So good that you and SO are of one mind. It's so helpful to have someone to share your decisions with who will reinforce the conclusions that you have reached and help you believe that they are the right decisions. So good that you ended your call with your son by telling each other that you loved each other and without any anger or abuse or pushing. These are both strong, positive things that have happened today. I drove to the forest to see my son this morning. He seemed well. He'd made an effort to wash in the river I think before I got there. His fingernails were filthy and broken though. That was a bit upsetting, but I didn't draw attention to it. We hung out in his treehouse and he talked about some childhood memories. He had a bag of filthy clothes that he wanted me to take and wash and bring back. I asked him how the others managed to wash their clothes. He said they used bicarbonate of soda and river water. I said that sounded interesting and that he should try that. I left the bag of washing with him. I felt a bit bad doing that, but if he wants this life then he doesn't really need my washing machine. Your son has chosen his life, he doesn't really need your spare bed. They can manage, and if they stop wanting to manage like that then they can work to find their way back to a more conformist life. We also left saying we loved each other. So I have four positive things to think about today: You saying 'no' to the bed and knowing you did the right thing. Me saying 'no' to the washing and knowing I did the right thing. You and your son leaving each other on a positive note. Me and my son leaving each other on a positive note. A good day! A reason to have a good night's sleep tonight. I'm sure your son is ok. I hope you have a good night's sleep too. [/QUOTE]
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