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That's it, husband quit, left last night..
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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 576389" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>PP. I'm glad your towels are still in the dryer, no one should have to live the way you have lived, that level of control is beyond controlling behavior, it's abusive. I'm sorry. With some time and some help you and the kids <strong>will</strong> lighten up. </p><p></p><p>I just had one thought about your post, and that is, if he decides he wants to come back, please be aware that you have power here, he isn't the president of the Universe, dictating what he wants and everyone jumps, you can get yourself an attorney (quickly I might add) and decide YOU don't want HIM back and take it from there. Kids are resilient, although that comment has got to hurt, with your honesty and love, he will mend. It's good he has a therapist and he has YOU.</p><p></p><p>Control does suck all the life out.............he did that to all of you for so long you've forgotten what it's like to be free and easy and to not live in the anxiety of trying to be perfect. That is a terrible fate and I for one, am glad he left so you can bring back the joy of laughter, the comfort and ease of relaxation and the knowledge that there is no perfection in the world, only perfect love, which you have with your 3 kids. Go enjoy your life, you deserve it. But, also get your ducks in order, financially and to protect your 13 year old from your ex's behavior towards him. HUGS to you mom, you've been in a battle, but you're out of the war now, go party down with some girlfriends and celebrate!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 576389, member: 13542"] PP. I'm glad your towels are still in the dryer, no one should have to live the way you have lived, that level of control is beyond controlling behavior, it's abusive. I'm sorry. With some time and some help you and the kids [B]will[/B] lighten up. I just had one thought about your post, and that is, if he decides he wants to come back, please be aware that you have power here, he isn't the president of the Universe, dictating what he wants and everyone jumps, you can get yourself an attorney (quickly I might add) and decide YOU don't want HIM back and take it from there. Kids are resilient, although that comment has got to hurt, with your honesty and love, he will mend. It's good he has a therapist and he has YOU. Control does suck all the life out.............he did that to all of you for so long you've forgotten what it's like to be free and easy and to not live in the anxiety of trying to be perfect. That is a terrible fate and I for one, am glad he left so you can bring back the joy of laughter, the comfort and ease of relaxation and the knowledge that there is no perfection in the world, only perfect love, which you have with your 3 kids. Go enjoy your life, you deserve it. But, also get your ducks in order, financially and to protect your 13 year old from your ex's behavior towards him. HUGS to you mom, you've been in a battle, but you're out of the war now, go party down with some girlfriends and celebrate! [/QUOTE]
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