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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 615524" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Thanks, Sig. He could be having a soft moment. I don't know. I'm enjoying the pictures, but am in no way thinking that they will lead to my being able to be a grandmother to the boys. His wife is afraid of me. Yes, afraid. People who know me in real life laugh when I say that, including my other kids, because, if anything, I'm a doormat who is totally non-violent. I'm not sure what she is afraid of. I did send some letters to S. when this first happened. I was grieving the loss of him and some letters pleaded with him to forgive me (although I wasn't sure exactly what I'd done...I would have admitted to anything) and then I'd get angry and more hurt when he didn't respond and I'd write a meaner letter, although no threats were ever attached to the letters. To S., that means I am "crazy." Well, maybe I claim guilty to that...lol. My other kids just roll their eyes and say he's being "a jerk" and "stupid." I have brought up to him that his sister Julie, who he had been SO CLOSE to, and his other siblings had never written him even one letter and he won't speak to them either, but he never has any answers.</p><p></p><p>At any rate, S's wife doesn't know me at all. The only way she could be afraid of me is if S. encouraged her feelings and validated them or said something untrue or something that HE thinks was true but wasn't true.</p><p></p><p>My brain gets tired thinking about this. I'm going to enjoy the pictures, but will not put too much stock in them and am not even sure I want him back in my life anymore. After all that has gone on, how could I look him in the face and not worry that everything I said would be seen as something it's not? I don't think I would risk my heart again at his point in time. Life is pretty good and I don't want to do this again. Call me a coward...I just can't.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 615524, member: 1550"] Thanks, Sig. He could be having a soft moment. I don't know. I'm enjoying the pictures, but am in no way thinking that they will lead to my being able to be a grandmother to the boys. His wife is afraid of me. Yes, afraid. People who know me in real life laugh when I say that, including my other kids, because, if anything, I'm a doormat who is totally non-violent. I'm not sure what she is afraid of. I did send some letters to S. when this first happened. I was grieving the loss of him and some letters pleaded with him to forgive me (although I wasn't sure exactly what I'd done...I would have admitted to anything) and then I'd get angry and more hurt when he didn't respond and I'd write a meaner letter, although no threats were ever attached to the letters. To S., that means I am "crazy." Well, maybe I claim guilty to that...lol. My other kids just roll their eyes and say he's being "a jerk" and "stupid." I have brought up to him that his sister Julie, who he had been SO CLOSE to, and his other siblings had never written him even one letter and he won't speak to them either, but he never has any answers. At any rate, S's wife doesn't know me at all. The only way she could be afraid of me is if S. encouraged her feelings and validated them or said something untrue or something that HE thinks was true but wasn't true. My brain gets tired thinking about this. I'm going to enjoy the pictures, but will not put too much stock in them and am not even sure I want him back in my life anymore. After all that has gone on, how could I look him in the face and not worry that everything I said would be seen as something it's not? I don't think I would risk my heart again at his point in time. Life is pretty good and I don't want to do this again. Call me a coward...I just can't. [/QUOTE]
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