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<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 652193" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>I think what happens next is that you shift the focus off of your daughter and you place it on yourself. If our kids launched in a typical fashion that would be a natural trajectory, they become adults, we let go and put our energy into our own lives. It's a lot more challenging when our kids are troubled, however, it is a necessary shift.</p><p></p><p>I think many of us need help to make that shift, in particular when our kids are difficult. I opted for a therapist, a therapist run parent group and a program for codependents. I felt I needed the support and it worked for me. I always suggest getting support in this process because it has so many emotional mine fields in it which blow up and have the potential of doing us harm. 12 step groups, counseling, NAMI which is the National Alliance on Mental Illness.......they have excellent support groups and resources for parents.</p><p></p><p>Your daughter is the only one who can make positive choices in her life. Letting go and working on our own happiness, our own peace of mind and our own well being, is in my opinion, and my experience, the "next step."</p><p></p><p>Hang in there. Hugs to you.....</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 652193, member: 13542"] I think what happens next is that you shift the focus off of your daughter and you place it on yourself. If our kids launched in a typical fashion that would be a natural trajectory, they become adults, we let go and put our energy into our own lives. It's a lot more challenging when our kids are troubled, however, it is a necessary shift. I think many of us need help to make that shift, in particular when our kids are difficult. I opted for a therapist, a therapist run parent group and a program for codependents. I felt I needed the support and it worked for me. I always suggest getting support in this process because it has so many emotional mine fields in it which blow up and have the potential of doing us harm. 12 step groups, counseling, NAMI which is the National Alliance on Mental Illness.......they have excellent support groups and resources for parents. Your daughter is the only one who can make positive choices in her life. Letting go and working on our own happiness, our own peace of mind and our own well being, is in my opinion, and my experience, the "next step." Hang in there. Hugs to you..... [/QUOTE]
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