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<blockquote data-quote="Kathy813" data-source="post: 590371" data-attributes="member: 1967"><p>For what it is worth, I agree with you about taking away the phone. He was misusing it to buy drugs and that made you part of the drug purchase albeit in a completely innocent way.</p><p></p><p>In fact, I am not a big fan of having any adult child on their parents' cell phone plan. We recently encouraged our easy child to get her own plan and she did. I think it is part of the symbolic act of becoming independent and taking care of your own wants and needs.</p><p></p><p>If your difficult child wants a phone, he can find a cheap plan like Metro PCS (which is what my difficult child has had for years) or a prepaid minute phone.</p><p></p><p>And, yes, it makes it harder to know what your difficult child is up to but that to me is a reason in and of itself for him to have his own plan. It is also the reason that I don't have a Facebook account. I don't want to be able to check up on my difficult child.</p><p></p><p>I know that others on the board like to keep a lifeline to their difficult child through the phone or Facebook. I'm not saying that is wrong . . . it just wouldn't work for me. For me, out of sight is out of mind and that makes it much easier to detach.</p><p></p><p>~Kathy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kathy813, post: 590371, member: 1967"] For what it is worth, I agree with you about taking away the phone. He was misusing it to buy drugs and that made you part of the drug purchase albeit in a completely innocent way. In fact, I am not a big fan of having any adult child on their parents' cell phone plan. We recently encouraged our easy child to get her own plan and she did. I think it is part of the symbolic act of becoming independent and taking care of your own wants and needs. If your difficult child wants a phone, he can find a cheap plan like Metro PCS (which is what my difficult child has had for years) or a prepaid minute phone. And, yes, it makes it harder to know what your difficult child is up to but that to me is a reason in and of itself for him to have his own plan. It is also the reason that I don't have a Facebook account. I don't want to be able to check up on my difficult child. I know that others on the board like to keep a lifeline to their difficult child through the phone or Facebook. I'm not saying that is wrong . . . it just wouldn't work for me. For me, out of sight is out of mind and that makes it much easier to detach. ~Kathy [/QUOTE]
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