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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 399040" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>It can be done. If you read "The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time" by Mark Haddon, the main character in that book has a basic understanding of sex and what is not appropriate. it indicates the fairly primitive level of understanding but also how you as a parent can take that and work with it. While it is a work of fiction, it is brilliant for helping you understand.</p><p></p><p>We explained the basics about sex, but we also said it is not polite to talk about it cheaply or rudely, and that the people who do tend to not really understand it as well as they pretend they do. We explained the basics as the man and the woman having bits that fit together in the right way, and that this is something special and important when it is done between two people who really know each other well and love one another in just that special way; it is not something you do with anybody else. </p><p></p><p>I would not normally recommend "Where Do I Come From?" because I think it is too simplistic - it has more information than a younger child needs, but it is delivered in a form that older kids find too patronising. However, we found it ideal for difficult child 3. My other kids hated it. difficult child 3 read it avidly (at about age 11) then said to me, "Why did nobody tell me any of this before?" in outraged tones. of course we had, he just had never taken it in.</p><p></p><p>The other aspect of too much information (Too Much Information) came when difficult child 3 told me delightedly one morning that he had a wet dream. If I hadn't stopped him he would have announced it to everybody he met that day, including total strangers. I just said to him, "It's a sign you're growing up. But you also need to tidy up, that is part of the adult responsibility that comes with it. It is not, however, something we talk about to everyone. For more information, talk to your father, it's very much a boy thing."</p><p>OK, I'm a coward. But we seem to have sailed trough this one.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 399040, member: 1991"] It can be done. If you read "The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time" by Mark Haddon, the main character in that book has a basic understanding of sex and what is not appropriate. it indicates the fairly primitive level of understanding but also how you as a parent can take that and work with it. While it is a work of fiction, it is brilliant for helping you understand. We explained the basics about sex, but we also said it is not polite to talk about it cheaply or rudely, and that the people who do tend to not really understand it as well as they pretend they do. We explained the basics as the man and the woman having bits that fit together in the right way, and that this is something special and important when it is done between two people who really know each other well and love one another in just that special way; it is not something you do with anybody else. I would not normally recommend "Where Do I Come From?" because I think it is too simplistic - it has more information than a younger child needs, but it is delivered in a form that older kids find too patronising. However, we found it ideal for difficult child 3. My other kids hated it. difficult child 3 read it avidly (at about age 11) then said to me, "Why did nobody tell me any of this before?" in outraged tones. of course we had, he just had never taken it in. The other aspect of too much information (Too Much Information) came when difficult child 3 told me delightedly one morning that he had a wet dream. If I hadn't stopped him he would have announced it to everybody he met that day, including total strangers. I just said to him, "It's a sign you're growing up. But you also need to tidy up, that is part of the adult responsibility that comes with it. It is not, however, something we talk about to everyone. For more information, talk to your father, it's very much a boy thing." OK, I'm a coward. But we seem to have sailed trough this one. Marg [/QUOTE]
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