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<blockquote data-quote="Mamaof5" data-source="post: 399105"><p>I don't think it has to do with husbands being a-holes. Do any of you remember your fathers or mothers talking about sex with you? My parents...nuh uh. They came from a generation where their parents ignored the "sex talk". My mom, at 19 (and this is bad) had her first menstruation at school and thought she was dying because her mother never sat down and talked to her about it. Literally, at 19 thought her menstruation was her dying.</p><p></p><p>My dad's parents. Very old fashioned Irish\Akadians. Never spoke about the "s word" ever with their boys. Very tight lipped parents my parents had. We learn from our parents how to speak about these things (or not speak). On that note, I vowed never to do this to my kids. I've always used appropriate body part language. Teaching the proper words for their genitals and how they firstly function as output for the body (urinated, defication, etc). My boys are intact as well so teaching them how to keep it clean the proper way was another thing taught very early. If my kids ask a question about sex or about the functions of their genitals I tell them in age appropriate ways.</p><p></p><p>Example: My 10 year old at the age of 8 said to me one day. I know what this is for (while pointing at himself). I asked him you do? What is it for?. His response was the kids at school say it's for diddling and boinking. I asked him to define what that means and he had no response. I ended up sitting and explaining what appropriate words were for the "street talk" and what it meant. Of course within age appropriate ways without as much full on detail.</p><p></p><p>Husband is a little squimish about it but I think it's because his parents were very much like mine. It was taboo to talk about at all because of generational gaps. Myself, I think I'm comfortable with it because I've written Erotica (not that I describe it like that to my kids but if you write it, it seems easier to use the proper definitions in the open and verbally - for me anyways). I don't know, maybe I'm just talking out my **** but it hasn't ever been something that bothers me to talk about with people or my kids. I think starting young with them with age appropriate wording helps a lot. It gets the ball rolling for when they ask the heavy hitting questions later on when they are older.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mamaof5, post: 399105"] I don't think it has to do with husbands being a-holes. Do any of you remember your fathers or mothers talking about sex with you? My parents...nuh uh. They came from a generation where their parents ignored the "sex talk". My mom, at 19 (and this is bad) had her first menstruation at school and thought she was dying because her mother never sat down and talked to her about it. Literally, at 19 thought her menstruation was her dying. My dad's parents. Very old fashioned Irish\Akadians. Never spoke about the "s word" ever with their boys. Very tight lipped parents my parents had. We learn from our parents how to speak about these things (or not speak). On that note, I vowed never to do this to my kids. I've always used appropriate body part language. Teaching the proper words for their genitals and how they firstly function as output for the body (urinated, defication, etc). My boys are intact as well so teaching them how to keep it clean the proper way was another thing taught very early. If my kids ask a question about sex or about the functions of their genitals I tell them in age appropriate ways. Example: My 10 year old at the age of 8 said to me one day. I know what this is for (while pointing at himself). I asked him you do? What is it for?. His response was the kids at school say it's for diddling and boinking. I asked him to define what that means and he had no response. I ended up sitting and explaining what appropriate words were for the "street talk" and what it meant. Of course within age appropriate ways without as much full on detail. Husband is a little squimish about it but I think it's because his parents were very much like mine. It was taboo to talk about at all because of generational gaps. Myself, I think I'm comfortable with it because I've written Erotica (not that I describe it like that to my kids but if you write it, it seems easier to use the proper definitions in the open and verbally - for me anyways). I don't know, maybe I'm just talking out my **** but it hasn't ever been something that bothers me to talk about with people or my kids. I think starting young with them with age appropriate wording helps a lot. It gets the ball rolling for when they ask the heavy hitting questions later on when they are older. [/QUOTE]
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