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<blockquote data-quote="SearchingForRainbows" data-source="post: 576409" data-attributes="member: 3388"><p>greenrene,</p><p></p><p>I agree with Terry that your husband should attend an AA meeting. However, if he refuses to acknowledge he has a drinking problem, refuses to attend an AA meeting, then sadly, there is absolutely nothing you can do to help him. However, you can continue to do the very best you can to help yourself. I'm glad you have an appointment with a therapist. </p><p></p><p>Be gentle with yourself. Living with an alcoholic is extremely stressful. I have first hand experience but my situation was very different from your situation. I wasn't married to him and we didn't have any children. I loved him with all my heart but ended up having to leave him. He refused to help himself and I wasn't going to let him take me any further down then I already was. </p><p></p><p>I'm not telling you to leave your husband. I'm hoping your husband will acknowledge that he is an alcoholic, go to AA meetings, begin to help himself. However, I don't think you can work on your marriage unless he is willing to work on himself. </p><p></p><p>As far as your stepdaughter is concerned, it is wonderful that your sister in law is such a caring and loving person. Your sister in law realizes that your difficult child needs to be in a more stable setting then what your husband can offer her right now. Hoping your husband begins to see the light...</p><p></p><p>Thinking of you today, sending many caring thoughts, hugs your way... SFR</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SearchingForRainbows, post: 576409, member: 3388"] greenrene, I agree with Terry that your husband should attend an AA meeting. However, if he refuses to acknowledge he has a drinking problem, refuses to attend an AA meeting, then sadly, there is absolutely nothing you can do to help him. However, you can continue to do the very best you can to help yourself. I'm glad you have an appointment with a therapist. Be gentle with yourself. Living with an alcoholic is extremely stressful. I have first hand experience but my situation was very different from your situation. I wasn't married to him and we didn't have any children. I loved him with all my heart but ended up having to leave him. He refused to help himself and I wasn't going to let him take me any further down then I already was. I'm not telling you to leave your husband. I'm hoping your husband will acknowledge that he is an alcoholic, go to AA meetings, begin to help himself. However, I don't think you can work on your marriage unless he is willing to work on himself. As far as your stepdaughter is concerned, it is wonderful that your sister in law is such a caring and loving person. Your sister in law realizes that your difficult child needs to be in a more stable setting then what your husband can offer her right now. Hoping your husband begins to see the light... Thinking of you today, sending many caring thoughts, hugs your way... SFR [/QUOTE]
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